- 7 years ago
seeing all these posts lately about thank you notes got me thinking. just last week, a friend/acquaintance gave me a wedding card with a gift (check) in it. It was totally unexpected and i was pleasantly surprised!
the back story is that we both got engaged at the same time, but she had her wedding about 8 months before me. and i was not invited. this was fine with me, i knew her more through someone else and did not expect to be invited. espcially since joining the bee and seeing how tight some people have to be with their guest lists.
but i decided i was not restricted with my guest list and so several months later i went ahead and sent her a wedding invitation. she didn’t come to my wedding in Jamaica. fine. last week i sent out my invites for my AHR. then i get together with this girl for the first time in months (partly because i now live in the same city as her). and she hands me the card and gift. i was totally not expecting this.
i thanked her profusely in person.
so i am wondering 2 things. do i also need to send a hand written note in the mail?
and 2 – do i send her a very belated wedding gift? i am thinking no for the gift since her wedding was like 10 months ago and i wasn’t invited. She is pregnant now so i think whether or not i am invited to her baby shower, i will send her a baby gift. (I think i will be invited to her shower though, but i will find out soon enough).
so really i am wondering if i need to send a thank you note in the mail since she gave me the card in person and i thanked her personally in person?