(Closed) Do I write my mom and sister a thank you card for shower gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yep 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I felt the same way writing to my mom and grandmother but they each told me they appreciated it. And what with email and texting being so common, a handwritten note just seems extra special.  I say do it!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Especially if you see someone regularly, I think they are extra appreciative if you’ve gone to the extra effort. When I made thank you cards for our engagement party, I wrote a small personal message on the back of the printed cards & people loved it!

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@fresitachulita:  It IS a bit weird.  I did it for my first shower that my DH’s family threw for me and my mom asked me to not do it again (for her anyway).  lol  She said that she’d rather I just called her.

This is the same woman who got kind of annoyed when my sister and BIL sent my parents a Christmas card.  We were spending Christmas with them.  She said that it seemed really impersonal.

I’d do it (because it is polite) and if either your sister or mom has an issue, hopefully they will let you know.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It can feel weird, but take it as an opportunity to write something other than the standard Thank You card: write a note they can keep that thanks them for being your mom and sister, for being there for you and helping with things, etc. I felt a little weird writing one for my parents for our wedding gift, but it’s actually the only time I’d be writing those sentiments down, so I went outside of just the gift and thanked them for everything. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What if you gave them a thank you card at the shower? Do you still need to send one after specificially for the gift?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I would, and no, it isn’t weird at all. Those should be the easiest ones to write, and believe me, unless your Mom isn’t the least bit sentimental, it will mean the world to her.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would definitely write them a thank you card! It does feel a little weird, because a lot of the time we view thank you cards as a formality.. but your relationship with them is far from formal. But their cards should be easier to write because you are so close with them.

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