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    bimba    May 28, 2010   Boston, MA

    OK....so, this is my thing...i am italian even though i was born in NY, so i kinda knew of this tradition of something new, old, blue and borrowed... i have never heard of this tradition in italy, but here in america looks like every brides do it..

    so this is my question, should i do it or not? i mean, it is really important to do it or i can just skip it? and if i dont do it will it be a sign of bad luck?!?! i dont think my mother actually did it in her wedding and she never mentioned this to me(she is italian but she grew up in NY and her wedding was in NY then she moved to italy with my dad(long story-short))...

    and what about the garter thing?? my fiancee doesnt want to do that thing, big deal or not?

    thanks bees!!

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    I think anything traditional is fine to skip, as long as it's not important to you or your FI. I don't see why it'd be a big deal, although I don't believe in superstitions anyway. 

     
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    JennHasFeet    October 30, 2010   Grand Rapids, MI

    if it's not something you originally intended or would hate to go without, skip it. why waste your time on something that doesn't mean that much to you?

     
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    CinnamonStick    May 14, 2010   Gettysburg, PA

    It's completely up to you! If you want to take part in the tradition, I'm sure it won't hurt- but same with leaving it out. I know my FI and I are cutting most traditions (taking his last name, bouquet/garter, something new&old&borrowed...) just because we don't see the point to them and disagree with some of the symbolism. We've gotten to a point where you can take or leave which ever traditions you like :)

     
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    Jessica22580    April 3, 2010   Charlotte, NC but Wedding is in NYC

    Do whatever you want to do. It's your day and there are no rules ;-)

     
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    Totally not a big deal to not do it! I think if you WANT to do it, then go for it! But don't stress not doing it if you're not attached to either tradition, I don't think anyone actually thinks that it's bad luck not to do it, it's just a still tradition :)

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    Totally up to you. I'm doing the "old, new, borrowed, blue" tradition because it means a lot to me and FH but we're boycotting the bouquet and the garter tosses. Whatever floats your boat.

     
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    gingerkid4god    June 12, 2010   West Virginia

    I dont think it matters iether way. Im doing it for fun, but i honetly dont think i would be cursed if i didnt. Plus it kinda helped me decide what i was wearing with my dress and made it easier.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    If you don't want to do it, then you don't have to!  We did it because it's a family thing.  As for garters, I didn't do it.

     
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    Miss_Riley    May 22, 2010   Wedding VA / Live in KS

    You should do what feels right to you! We personally decided to do the "old, new, borrowed, blue" because it was important to our families. Despite some protests I refused to have my new husband stick his hand up my skirt in front of my father and grandfathers for a garter toss so we're skipping that and the bouquet toss.

     
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    bimba    May 28, 2010   Boston, MA

    haha MIss Riley thats was funny! yeah i dont think im going to do any of these things... actually i tought about doing something new, old, blue and borrowed and it  drove me crazy cause i didnt know what to wear for blue and blah blah... i just dont want people to expect something that is not going to happen and then asking me "why you didnt do it?" u know??

     

    but thanks all...now i feel better knowing that it is not a MUST

     

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