(Closed) Do men just have worse manners than women???

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who brought uninvited dates to your wedding?
    Only male guests did this at my wedding. : (1 votes)
    11 %
    Only female guests did this at my wedding. : (1 votes)
    11 %
    It was a mix, but it was mostly male guests that did this. : (0 votes)
    It was a mix, but it was mostly female guests that did this. : (1 votes)
    11 %
    It was 50/50 male and female guests who did this. : (2 votes)
    22 %
    Other (please explain!). : (4 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    I had only one person do this at my wedding, and it was a male. No calls or anything first. I was a little shocked when I met her for the first time at my wedding!

    Post # 4
    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Interesting.  Thus far we’ve had several children added that weren’t invited but as far as uninvited plus ones, there have only been two … and they’re both female and they’re both related to Fiance.  We do have several single men that we’ve invited but thus far, we haven’t gotten ANY of their RSVPs back.  So which is worse – RSVP’ing with an uninvited guest or not RSVP’ing at all?  I’ll tell you the answer to that when our RSVP deadline comes and goes.

    Post # 5
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I didn’t have this problem, luckily.

    BUT, I have noticed that the guests who didn’t send or bring a card (or a gift, but we said no gifts necessary so I don’t care about that) were all men. I just think most men, unfortunately, weren’t raised to understand that when someone gets married, you give them a card with your well-wishes.  I’ve also never in my life received a thank-you note from a man – only from women.

    Edit: My one no-show was also a man. >:(  (Well, technically a couple, since I invited him along with his wife, but he’s the one that I know.) No card from him, either!

    Post # 7
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I know plenty of women who would break this rule of thumb. But in general, it’s mostly men.

    Post # 8
    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My (female) cousin added her boyfriend to her RSVP and my aunt gave her hell about it after she found out, lol. I was okay with it because he’s her boyfriend, not just a date, and if I’d known she was seeing someone I would have added him to the invite anyway.

    My BIL invited a date and told us after the fact, but she ended up not being able to make it anyway. We were a bit miffed about that one since they weren’t officially “together” at the time.

    Post # 9
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We had one female friend and one male friend ask and honestly it was fine.  They were in relationships that were somewhat serious, but had begun after we made our guest list.  We were happy to tell them both it was OK to bring their SO.

    I don’t think that men are necessarily ruder than women.  Maybe I am just super rude – because my fiance is always more polite than I am.

    Post # 10
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Men *don’t KNOW* this is ‘break the rules’

    Post # 11
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    No one did.

    Post # 12
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    we had a guy try to do this at our wedding, and I will admit that I was guilty of doing this at a relative’s wedding when I was 18 and didn’t know better (still not an excuse).

    I think more guys do this because generally people want a plus one and might even expect it, and guys might be more up front about it if they don’t get one, whereas most women, even if not given one, realize it’s a faux pas to ask for one. Guys are just clueless – they just figure the bride doesn’t care who is there, but I think women get it and can sympathize with not wanting random guests.


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