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Hmmm - what would be the issue why they won't be coming to the wedding? because they cannot get married in your state?
I really hope thats not the issue because that does not seem reasonable to me!
I don't know your friends stance, but mine have been nothing but supportive and excited for our wedding. Have you talked to them about your wedding? You know, before sending the invite? Did you get the feeling they weren't supportive or interested?
honestly, you're probably reading way too much into it. If they are your friends then I'm sure they wouldn't begrudge you something or try to make a political point at your expense. I think it's just a coincidence.
Both of them seemed equally excited before the wedding. My fiance is Muslim, and I am Catholic, and both of them said that they were proud that we were choosing to do this, as they said you are "making your own statement in society."
Neither of these guys are religious either. One of them is athiest, in fact.
Meowkers- See, that's what I'm wondering. I've just been thinking that maybe I missed something.
I would just give them a call to find out if they're coming or not. If they let you know that the reason is that everyone can't get married, so they're boycotting all weddings, then respect their decision and leave it at that. I also think you might be reading into it a little too much. They might have just gotten busy and forgot to respond. The only way to know is to ask!
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I really think it must be coincicdence and you are looking to much into the situation, I say ask the friends why they aren't coming, express how you want them there and maybe that might change their mind and yours about why they arent infact coming
I would just give them a call-- "Hey, I have not yet received your RSVP and I just wanted to follow up with you. We'd love for you to be there, but if you can't make it we'll understand."
Hi! I would just give them a call to make sure there are no misunderstandings. My gay friends have been as supportive as my straight ones, so it might just be a coincidence. Good luck!
Yeah, I have to agree with the other ladies that you may be looking too much into it. You can get to bottom of it by giving them a call to see if they are attending or not. I have plenty of gay family members whom are exstatic for the wedding and already sent their responses in so I wouldn't say that your friends are doing that unless of course that is what they have said. Just find out!
Good luck!
I'd call them. If they haven't said anything to you yet, you're probably just reading too much into it. =)
I think it's probably just a conicidence. I'd call them to get to the bottom of it, though. :)
You might be reading too much into it. Id give them a call and ask if they are attending. Don't bring up the gay point, youre jsut calling a guest to find out if theyre coming. We have a few sets of boyfriends coming to our wedding (and one bringing his new one whom we havent met yet! WOOHOO!) and they are so thrilled for us and so excited the are there to participate. Just like if they were to go down that marriage path, we'd be there with bells on to celebrate with them
See, the thing is, I already did call both of them. One of them said "Oh, yeah, sorry. I will send it in... I don't think I can be there, but my boyfriend might come..." And, then I never heard anything...
The other one, I left a voicemail. No response. Two weeks later, I sent a text. No response. So, finally I tried sending the nicest message on facebook a week later, asked him if he could let me know one way other the other, since I know he is a pretty busy guy." Still, nothing.
I just hope I didn't do anything wrong. I have bridal brain, so I am continuously paranoid.
I'd just check in with your friends, let them know you were hoping they could make it and were wondering if they'd be there. You may jus tbe reading into things about their feelings, you never know.
I think you are reading way too much into it and it's just a coincidence. The LGBT community wants equal marriage rights. They (generally) don't hate on their straight friends that already have the right. Personally, I feel horrible that I can get married and they can't. How much does it suck to know that we get to have all the joy, anticipation, etc of the 'big day' - and it's something they've always been denied.
If you have tried contacting them several times, I think you would be justified in leaving a nice voicemail for each of them, "Hey Joe, we are finishing up seating arrangements and food choices and I really need to know if you can make it or not. If you are planning to come please let me know by Monday-- otherwise I will assume you are busy and can't make it. Hope things are going well! Talk to you later!"
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missrain- Yes, that is finally what I did for the one I never heard from. I sent him a message on facebook (which I HATE doing) because I figured maybe his cell # changed or something.
I'm assuming he's just not coming. It just seems weird to not get ANY response whatever.
There are two types of people in this world - those who conscientiously send in their RSVPs, and those who apparently don't get why it's important. I wouldn't read anything more into their lack of response than that your two friends belong to the latter group. It's frustrating for you, but call them again and if you can't get them in person, let them know that if they don't get back to you by X date you will assume they are not coming.
I know it is frustrating, but for what it's worth I doubt it is anything personal or anything to do with their sexual orientation 
We see it on these boards time and time again: people just don't seem to get why RSVPs are important. Sounds like you have handled it as well as you can! Good luck with the rest of your wedding planning!
If it was anyone else that hadn't replied, would you think that they were not supportive of your marriage?
I really think you're reading too much into it - you don't have anything to suggest that they don't approve other than their sexuality. Think about what you're saying - "they haven't replied, it must be because they are gay". You say you don't want to make assumptions, but really that's what you are doing.
Some people just aren't very good at responding. Afraid you'll just have to keep chasing up. And if you really are worried about the non-support possibility - ask them.
I doubt it has anything to do with sexual orientation-that seems really silly to me. They might just suck at RSVP's OR they dislike weddings-not everyone loves weddings and I'm sure that some of our gay friends are included in that list.
Ditto PP's probably reading into it too much. We had the big 'ol catholic wedding and our gays came and had a great time.
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Okay, before I say anything further...I'm not trying to make assumptions, or of course insult anyone. :-)
Our RSVPs for our wedding were due back at the last weekend of June. After tracking down those last few people, we have gotten a response from nearly everyone...
Except for two friends of mine. Not even a "regrets" answer.
Both of these friends of mine are two guys, who are gay. This could just be purely coincidental, but it seems odd that there is this connection. I'm trying not to bug them too much, but it would be great to know if they were coming!
..but that's beside the point. What I am getting at is, I really am wondering if they are taking some type of a stance.
What do you think? Has anyone else had a similar situation? I know there is a lot going on with marriage in the gay community right now, and I am wondering if that is part of it. At the same time, I have some other friends of mine who are also gay, but they responded right away, and are just as excited as anyone else!
I'm honestly just curious. I really, really hope that I'm not offending anyone. I really tried to watch how I was phrasing this, as I definitely feel like I'm "out of the loop" on this one.