Post # 1
This probably isn’t as bad as it seemed, but my MIL really pisses me off.
We told our parents about a month ago that we’re expecting and they took us out to dinner to celebrate. While at dinner MIL invited herself over after the baby is born to take care of him/her. She told me SO MANY TIMES that I won’t want anything to do with the baby at night and I won’t want to get up when the baby needs something, so she’ll come over every night and take care of the baby. I’m sorry, but who says that!?!
I was talking about how I was doing some reading and research and she told me that I shouldn’t read anything because none of it is true. OK, so I’ll just go through this whole pregnancy not having a clue about anything…sounds like a plan!
Then, on Easter, we had my side of the family over (DH’s side never does anything for Easter) and MIL decided to come over and give us an Easter basket (that was akward!). She hadn’t seen our US picture yet, so I showed her and was very excited. I made the comment that I had The Bump app on my phone and it gives you an update each week on how big baby is and this week is a rasberry and next week will be a green olive. The other ladies that were around were all gushing and saying how cute and small that is, and MIL says “That’s not true. Don’t believe that because remember, baby doesn’t read the internet!” I was so taken back, I just stared at her and didn’t say a word. I’m not so stupid that I honestly believe that the baby is exactly the size that The Bump is saying, but it’s fun seeing it change every week. MIL is such a bitch.
Does anybody else get rude comments from their MIL?
Post # 3
HA after reading that, YES YOU MAY SLAP HER. Do it for all of us with difficult mother in laws!
ETA: My sister and her husband had IVF and her MIL kept calling it a “miracle baby.” After the baby was born she would tell people she was made in a petri dish. So ignorant. MILs can be the worst!
Post # 5
I always want to slap my MIL, but of course it has gotten worse since telling her we are expecting. When we told her we were expecting, her response was: I was expecting this; it’s time. That’s it. Nothing else. 5 minutes later she sends me an email for legal advice that she needs asap and makes no mention of our convo 5 minutes prior. She has since told DH that she is convinced we are having a girl, so I’m sure whenever we tell her the gender, and it happens to be a girl, the only response will be told you so.
I literally did not hear from her for the 2 weeks after we told her excpet on the legal advice issue. Then she calls and asks if DH and I can go to Disney World in May. Uhh no, we live in TN, so it’s not exactly easy to just go to Disney World. Let alone the fact that I’m preggo and can’t exactly go on any rides. She was all upset that we won’t be coming.
Post # 6
@MrsTVLover: Wow…what a bitch!
Post # 7
Yes, you may slap her! She reminds me a little of mine who doesn’t shut her mouth at times that I really wish she would.
Post # 8
hahahahaha your title made me laugh! no you can’t slap her. but you could say, “my pregnancy hormones are making me want to slap you right now” the next time she says something offensive. that way it’s kind of like slapping her verbally, without the whole assault charge angle.
Post # 9
Oh my, just from your post title I knew I could probably relate. I have a crazy MIL as well who has given me all sorts of (unwanted and usually crazy) advice during the short duration of my pregnancy thus far. I feel for you, dear, the crazy MIL is the worst. Do you ever wonder how your DH could have possibly turned out the way he did with a mother like that? I wonder that all the time!
My MIL was already asking when we were going to have kid #2 at Easter. Really? Can’t we get the first one out of the way first? But then of course it wasn’t just out of curiosity, it was to inform me that SHE had her 2 perfect children back-to-back and that I should probably do this, too, because, well, it worked out so well for her so there can’t be another better way to do it, right? Umm…lady…we are going to barely be able to afford daycare for one kid, let alone 2 before I finish school. Plus, I am already taking quite a chunk of time out of school for kid 1, I would actually like to graduate on time, so I don’t plan on having another kid during med school.
I liked this advice she gave me, too–you don’t need an epidural during birth, just get the opioid pain med shots because they don’t make you immobile like an epidural and they really don’t hurt the baby at all, I mean, look at MY kids, they turned out fine, didn’t they? Yes, they did, but you birthed your children a quarter of a century ago…times have changed a little since then, so I think I will take labor and delivery advice from someone a little closer to my own age, thank you!
Gahhhh maybe we need to form a Bat-Sh*t Crazy MILs support group or something….as hard as it is, I try and just smile and nod, then come to places like WB to b*tch about how crazy she is. But in my head the entire time she’s talking most of the time I am daydreaming about just completely telling her off or even sometimes, yes, slapping her in the face 😉
Post # 10
hahahahaha! No you can’t slap her but you CAN rant on here about her and let us all benefit from the hilariously inappropriate things she says/does!
I’m so sorry…
if it makes you feel better my friend has a similar situation and her MIL is worse!
Post # 11
@paw: See, I don’t understand how MILs have no contact. My MIL is the same way, she’ll only call or text about once or twice a month, even after we told her. DH and I talk to my mom and/or dad every day!
@geekspice: Good call. But that doesn’t sound like nearly as much fun.
Post # 12
Haha! She sounds very annoying. I wouldn’t slap her, but definitely don’t let her stupid comments get to you, let them roll off and don’t spend too much time thinking about the things she says becasue it really isn’t worth the effort. Maybe you should set up a “shit my mother in law says” blog? lol 😉 Also congrats!
Post # 13
@Fall_In_Love22: lol slap away! What a B*tch
Post # 14
@Fall_In_Love22: I’m grateful for minimal contact! I don’t think I could handle regular communication since it is always like this! We also talk to my family regularly probably because they are more sane….
Post # 15
@Fall_In_Love22: I love this post and feel your pain. My FMIL turned into a monster after we got engaged and I’m bracing myself for a rough road with her while I’m pregnant. I just know she’s going to say something stupid and I’m going to have to bite my tongue and walk away. Sure would be nice if we could slap them once in a while though.
@MrsTVLover: OMG. That sounds like something my FMIL would say. Ugh.
@paw: Yeah, FI told FMIL that we were expecting and she literally said nothing. Then a few days later she told his sister that “she didn’t react too well to the news”. Even though FI and I both know she’s crazy and doesn’t react like a normal person its still so disappointing and infuriating.
ETA: If I have a boy, I promise to NEVER act like my MIL when he gets married.
Post # 16
@Fall_In_Love22: Wow. Your MIL sounds rather overbearing. It might be good to adopt a policy of minimal comments about your thoughts and plans during your pregnancy.
If she continues to challenge you or TELL you what she’s going to do for you (rather than ask what you need/want), then I honestly think your husband should have a quiet word with her in which he tells her nicely but firmly to back off. You are the parents. You get to make the decisions. If I were you – I’d also have my husband tell her that you will let her know what you think you’ll need from her after the baby arrives. Don’t let her bulldoze you.
Keep in mind it will be hard for her not to offer advise or speak up if she has a strong opinion about something. Try to be patient if her comments are coming from a place of love and concern but shut it down if she’s just being a know-it-all. Set good boundaries NOW. It might very well save you some struggle after the baby is born.