Post # 1
Is having a personal attendant a must have?
I have 4 bridesmaids and I’m not even sure who to ask to be a PA. Do I absolutely need one or will I be fine without?
Any married bees who didn’t have one? Did things go smoothly or do you wish you would have had one?
Post # 3
I didn’t have one but then again I am not really sure what a personal attendant is.
Post # 4
I’ve never even heard of a personal attendant! Is it like maid of honor?
Post # 5
I have no clue what a PA would do. I’m pretty sure I’m functional in all ways and if I need something or want something, I can go get it myself or have somebody fetch me a glass of water or something.
I’ve never heard of such a thing. Every wedding I have attended or been in, the bride didn’t have any sort of attendant.
Post # 6
Okay, to be totally honest, I’m not even 100% sure what a personal attendant is. I’ve been in a few weddings, and none of those brides had one. For my weddding, my mom, mother-in-law, and bridemaids helped me get through the day!
Post # 7
Is that someone to help you get ready? Like zip you up?
Well either way, I didn’t have one. Things went just fine.
Post # 8
For people who aren’t sure what they do-
They basically just help you with little things, and they are usually carrying one of those “bridal emergency bags”-w/things like hairspray,mints,advil,mini sewing kit, etc. They also help you use the restroom if you need it.
Both of my sisters had them, but one of their personal attendants was also an event planner for a living so she kind of went above and beyond. That wedding also had multiple emergency situations so she was kind of keeping the couple updated on that if they needed to know anything so they weren’t worrying too much and could enjoy their wedding reception.
Post # 9
I didn’t have a PA, but I did have day-of coordinator. I’ve actually never heard of a PA until I came to the Bee. From my understanding, a PA is like the bride’s personal – for lack of a better word – b*tch. Someone to run last minute errands, deal with vendors, fetch the bride food and beverage, etc. It appears that it’s regional and some people are ok with it, but it always seemed like a crappy “honor” to bestow on someone. You are asking them to be unpaid labor for the day without the recognition of being a BM.
Our venue also gave us an event captain (awesome name right?) that helped my coordinator set up the reception space and she directed the reception. If your venue doesn’t provide something like that, I might look to hire someone for just the day. It could be really helpful if you forget a check, need help coordinating with vendors, or need any errands run the day of. But it’s really going to depend on how large and eleborate your wedding is.
But if you do decide you need help, hire someone. Don’t ask your friends to work (for free) on your wedding.
Post # 10
@RunsWithBears: Completely agree with all of this!
Post # 11
I don’t really know what a personal attendant is, but I will have a fitter coming from the dress shop to help me and the BMs get dressed, make sure all our dresses are steamed and look good before the ceremony and reception. She also makes sure my makeup and hair is touched up when needed.
Our venue also provides a day-of coordinator to deal with all the vendors, make sure setup done properly, finals payments are made to the vendors. I wouldn’t imagine having one of my bridesmaids do this kind of thing.
Post # 12
@melitabonita: Isn’t that what your MOH is for? That’s what mine is doing (though without being asked–I just found this out the other day, haha).