- 4 years ago
I have been MIA for a while…no posts/comments, etc. because my wonderful boyfriend told me that he had to push back the proposal. I totally understand why so that was the reason I decided to leave all things wedding related for a while(even though I am still bombarded with friends/coworker wedding planning); so as not to obsess about getting engaged. In reality, he promised that we would have been engaged by the time our friends get married at the end of this month. I was sad at first but I got over it.
Anyway, we learned last weekend that one of our friends got engageg. I was happy (she got a black diamond..Beautiful!) but I was kinda sad for myself. So I was at his house and we were talking, then I just got quiet. He asked why and I told him that I didn’t want to say because I didn’t want him to get upset. (You know that moment when you don’t wanna tell your friends how you feel because they are all engaged or tell him because you in no way want him to feel pressured and then be unhappy? That was the moment I was having.) He promised he wouldn’t. So I said ok and I just busted out crying lol. He held me and then I finally told him what I was thinking. He was super supportive that I was soooo shocked. He even took me to the movies that night, even though we went out twice, the weekend before! He said he understood that it was just a lapse and that I haven’t been bugging him about it so he understands.
Now (and even before that little lapse) I am just really happy about our relationship that I am not even obsessing about getting engaged. I have been super busy that I do not have time to think about it all the time anymore. Oh and that friend is the last person that I even care about who got engaged so I wnt breakdown again. I am always happy for people who get engaged, just that their engagement won’t have an impact on me. That said:
Enjoy your relationships, I know that can be more easily said than done. But it is the best thing you can do to ensure that your relationship is still smooth sailing up until the enagement and thereafter. Pick up a hobby, it really works. I have been busy with Insanity and Basketball that the days seem to be just flying away. Set your own goals, have something to look forward to, other than the engagement, you won’t be miserable. You may have a lapse, but you will bounce back in no time. Make a conscious effort to not obsess and then it will become easy.
This isn’t anything new, but I have seen how these things really work so I just wanted to share
Btw, enjoy it when people call you husband and wife. These past few weeks, lots of strangers have done it. In the past I would get upset about it but now I smile and embrace it. Even while playing Basketball against others, they refer to us that way and are super impressed at our teamwork on the court. So I embrace it and we do not tell anyone otherwise, who think we are married 🙂