Do Officiants usually stay for reception?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Mine didn’t.  I think they usually don’t, especially if you hired them.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mtbikelover:  what day and time is your wedding? and is your officiant a pastor or minister?

we will extend an invitation to the minister out of respect but more than likely he will decline. he actual preaches at a church so i’m sure he wants to get home to rest for sunday service. our wedding is on a saturday late afternoon/evening.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

They have stayed at all the weddings I’ve been to.  I think it’s a nice gesture to offer them a meal afterwards.  Our is staying for the party but we are close to him.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Mine told us up front she doesn’t, because then she’d be attending a wedding almost every weekend.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m wondering about this too. I know that if they’re your pastor, minister, etc then often they stay, at least at the weddings I’ve been to they do. We’re just hiring a random pastor though so I’m not sure if we should expect him to stay or not..

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

It sounds as if your situation is different.  However, my DH is a pastor, and couples almost always invite us to the rehearsal dinner (since DH oversees the rehearsal) as well as to the reception. We almost always attend.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t know if they usually stay, but I’ll be inviting our minister to the reception.  I think you at least have to send an invite and then see what she says.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I invited ours but she declined.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My friend hired an officiant for her wedding last summer and she stayed for a little while after.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ours came to the reception and ate. She left before the dance. We would have set a chair out for her regardless because we wanted to make sure she felt welcome. Plus it is common in our area to have the pastor do a meal prayer before it starts.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mtbikelover:  If they don’t know you I think they usually don’t. We know ours well and he was joking that we were worth giving up Saturday night for, but he doesn’t usually. And sometimes he doesn’t even get invited! (Which seems a little rude!)

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mtbikelover:  mine stayed for cocktail hour and dinner. I think it’s nice to invite them, that way you know either way.

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