Post # 1
I am my Dad’s favourite. I know it, my siblings know it, and hell, even my mother knows it. That does not mean that he doesn’t love all of us equally because I really believe he does. However, he likes me most because we have the most in common and we get along the best.
Is this common or do most parents just stick to the tried and true line of “everyone is the same?” I am not sure how that even makes sense because everyone is an individual and it is only logical that you will get along with some folks better than others.
I certainly have a favourite niece. I have a favourite nephew too. I give everyone the same amount in a savings bond for gifts, but I spend extra time with the kids I really relate to. Maybe I am off base, but I am interested to know how it works for you 🙂
ETA: What about parent bees? Do YOU have a favourite? A lot of people are talking about their own parents rather than themselves as a parent. I don’t have kids, so I can’t answer. I assume I will have one I get along with best.
Post # 3
Yes. Fiancee’s brother is the favourite. He does nothing wrong even though is he a short tempered cheater.
My brother is the favourite. Even though he is a jobless hobo living off my parents.
Post # 4
I can’t really answer the poll because I don’t think all families can be described by one blanket statement. Every family is different.
My mom used to tell me I was her favorite. But she treated us all the same. I’m not the favorite anymore, though, I’m currently in the doghouse because of the wedding.
I haven’t really seen any evidence of favoritism in any other families I know. Most of them only have one child, though.
Post # 5
@MrsPanda99: I am so, so so my mums favourite! I am the little girl, I am my mum and dad’s only “together” daughter (mum has two daughters 10 and 13 years older than me from a previous marriage) and Im the youngest of all 5 siblings. Everyone knows Im the favourite, mum and I are just close, we get along, and to be honest Im the only child who hasn’t “used” her in any way (money, gifts, other things I wont go into)
I can’t tell with my dad, we didn’t live with him for long and we don’t see him much. But he does tell me a lot of deeply personal things, I have seen him cry and he’s paying $10,000 towards our ($8,000) wedding. Its hard to tell, but I think I might be a favourite from the way he really opens up to me, like an equal, not a child.
I also have favourite nieces/nephews. But that said, I have never treated them differently in any way, because I know they get favouritism from other places and I feel like its my job as their loving aunt to make them all feel equal. I know, bit weird, but I love them like my own children 🙂
Post # 6
@Swizzle: Sometimes the favourites don’t make sense, that’s for sure :- Essentially my mother loves anyone who gives her grandkids…that puts me and one brother in the shit out of luck category of things 😛
@HeyKaraoke: Polls generalize. Of course they don’t apply to every situation, but folks often choose the most accurate representation that they can. I don’t know a single family without a favourite to be honest.
Post # 7
@MrsPanda99: My mom has always said that she loves both of us the same, but differently. There are things she likes to do more with my sister (such as hiking, going to the beach, taking dogs on a walk, etc) and things she likes to do with me more (shopping, cooking, etc). My sister is not a city person, so every year my mom and I take at least one, if not two, trips to NYC. On the other hand, I’m a vegetarian, and so my mom and sister usually go to the beach once a year and live off huge steam buckets of crab and clams.
She’s also said that she’ll go through phases where she gets along better with one than the other. Currently, her and I are closer. But in the past, my sister and her have been closer. But I honestly believe she doesn’t have a favorite.
Post # 8
@MrsPanda99: I’m with you. I am my dad’s favourite. I know it, my siblings know it and my mother too. My brother is my mother’s favorite and us siblings know. In both cases, it’s because my mother and father identify most closely with one of the four of us. I do not feel any resentment towards my mother for this but I’m wondering if that’s because I’m my dad’s favorite. Not sure.
I do have a favorite nephew. He’s the sweetest and while I do spend the same amount of money on them, I enjoy spending my time with one nephew the most. Ooooo… just thinking about him warms my heart.
I have a favorite soon-to-be stepchild and a favorite soon-to-be step-grandchild. It’s just how it works I guess. I dunno. I don’t set out to determine favorites but over time, I’ve aligned with certain family members best.
Post # 9
My parents do not have a favorite. Sure, I made life easier for them by getting an office job, living in state, and getting married…compared to my brother who is persuing a music career in NYC. But I can say with 100% confidence they do not have a favorite.
My DH’s parents clearly have a favorite – and its his sister and they make it very obvious! Its really sad.
Post # 10
I’m the favorite with my dad. I’m the only girl, and I’m the youngest, so he was always a sucker for me. We get along well and have a sweet bond. I’m sure my brothers know it.
I think it’s often true in families that there are favorites. It doesn’t mean you don’t love a kid less, but it does mean there is a child whom you click with more and enjoy their company more. It’s so taboo, but I really think it’s common.
Post # 11
I’m the favorite, but they are still crazy about my brother! It’s not a bad thing. I’m just closer to them than he is because I make the effort to keep up (we both live kind of far from home). I think my brother was the favorite when we were very small. He was very outgoing and I was extremely introverted.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t say I am the favorite but I do get along better with my parents. It makes my sister mad sometimes that “everyone likes me more”. But its not for a lack of trying. If I went around believing that I had the right to let everyone know exactly what I thought of them no one would like me either!
My mom babies my youngest brother who is 11 years younger than me. I don’t think he’s really her favorite I think she is just clinging to motherhood all the while doing him no favors in the long run.
Post # 13
My parents don’t really have a favorite. My mom treats me and my brother exactly the same. Although, I know she appreciates how I’m “the good child” LOL. I guess I’m my dad’s favorite but that’s because I’m his only child.
My FI’s mother favors his older brother. Although, I think it’s more out of “pity”. She feels like he needs the extra love because his confidence isn’t as high. It’s annoying. FI’s dad doesn’t treat either differently, although he has more in common with my FI than the brother.
Post # 14
My FI is the middle child and even though he doesn’t think he’s the favorite – his brother and sister are convinced he is the favorite. I think he is too, how could he not be?!
Though the FMIL and FFIL make bigger deals when FI’s brother come into town it seems like they favor the FI. He’s quiet and always looking out for their best interest, doesn’t seem to take advantage of them, etc….
Plus his name is his mom’s password for everything lol
I’m an only child and first grand daughter who is local to the grandparents so we know I’m the favorite in my family.
Post # 15
@MrsPanda99: I don’t know about favorite, but my parents went in spurts with my brother becuase he is a Marine and was serving, so for a few years it was all about my brother even though I did SO much for them. Then when he would come home he was still the golden child even though he wouldn’t help them with anything or spend time with them. My mom even told me at one point that my brother was more important because he was a military man. They have 3 walls in their house decorated with pictures of him while I have 2 pics up on the wall.
So it feels like he is their favorite sometimes, but honestly if it came down to which one of us would be there for our parents I would definitely win golden child of the millenium.
Post # 16
@MrsPanda99: I’m an only child, so I’m just following this because I find it fascinating. I don’t plan on having children and none of my friends have children.