Post # 1
I just realized when looking at some other Bee’s recaps that I never ordered any bouts/corsges for my parents, his parents, or our surviving grandparents… is this a big faux pas? I can definitely order them if I need to but just wondering it is skippable as I really forgot and spent our flower budget already. :/
Post # 2
I’t’s probably technically skippable? But we ordered them and most people I know have as well.
Post # 3
Every wedding I’ve been to and our own wedding the parents and grandparents do have boutinerres and corsages, I think that’s typically how it is done. The grandparents may be offended if they do not receive one. Bouts are cheap and I would rather just spend the few bucks then let my parents/grandparents think I forgot about them!
Post # 4
Yep, and we got orchids, which are the favorites of both mothers and 2 of the grandmothers. (I don’t think my MIL likes anything- LOL!). We also bought for the groom’s sister and BIL, and the brides BIL. We would have bought for the godparents, too, but there aren’t any. The reader isn’t getting one, though.
Post # 5
I think its a way to distinguish parents and grandparents as special guests. Is it necessary? No, no wedding thing is necessary. But I can see it offending grandparents. Also, some of the older generation might wonder why they aren’t there.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
Not necessary but definitely appreciated. I know my mom and FI’s mom are very much looking forward to the wedding and I wanted to have them distinguised from the others. It would be a nice thing to do for them and I’m sure a little thoughtfulness will go a long way with them.
Post # 7
MrsN14: Misswhowedding: I wouldn’t want to inadvertently offend anyone over something so small when the rest of this process has gone so well. I’ll just pony up and order them! Thanks.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
springbride23: totally unnecessary unless you think they expect it and might be offended. We did DIY flowers but ordered my husband’s bout from a florist because it seemed a little harder. I just straight-up asked my mom and MIL if they would like one, and they were like “What, like prom?” Totally didn’t care. So it depends on your family members, and also the formality of your wedding I’d say (ours was quite relaxed).
Post # 9
lolot: I was thinking they really wouldn’t care but I didn’t want to break any etiquette rules, haha. I will just order them as we did paper flowers from an Etsy seller so she can probably duplicate the order.
Post # 11
You don’t have to give them to anyone, others than those who you are close to and want to honour/feel part of your wedding. So, typically they are given to parents and sometimes grandparents.
Post # 12
It’s supposed to be a sign of honour, sort of like saying ‘This person is a VIP!’
My younger brother, my FI’s sister, and both our sets of parents as well as my one surviving grandmother will have boutineers and corsages. I’m using it as a code for the photographer, so she’ll know who the important people are 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
I had been planning to get corsages and bouts for grandparents and parents. I wanted to have something nice for them as recognition – but I’m not really a fan of corsages. I just went with them because that’s the tradition. I mentioned it to my mom, and a few days later she asked if she could wear a flower wreath in her hair instead of a corsage, since she doesn’t like corsages. I *love* that idea – and was already planning to have flowers in my hair and a wreath made for our flower girl. Talked to FMIL and FSMIL and neither of them are really big on corsages, either, and both loved the idea of wearing flowers in their hair. And our wedding is on the summer solstice, so flowers in the hair is very fitting! Now I have 6 women (two FSILs, MOH, Mom, FMIL, and FSMIL) all wearing flowers in their hair, and we’re still deciding about the grandmas. I’ll get them whatever they want to have 🙂
Post # 14
We discussed it with our parents and my mother difinitely didn’t want a corsage so we decided no corsages or bouttoniers. My FI and his groomsment aren’t having any bouttoniers either. I think it’s personal preference. In a lot of the recent wedding photos that I’ve seen, I’ve noticed that many people are moving away from bouttoniers and corsages.
Post # 15
This is a really good question and one I hadn’t considered at all. The only flowers at my wedding will be a memorial to my parents, and that’s it. I won’t even have a bouquet, so clearly no one else will have flowers. Just a silent way to honor my parents who passed, so I hope no one would be offended by that. I wouldn’t change it even if they were though, so…
Overall, I would think corsages for parents, etc. is a personal choice.