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I've never actually been to a shower...not a baby shower, not a bridal shower, nothing. All I have ever heard about showers is how people don't seem to like going...or at least thats what I've heard from my mother.

Because this is all I've really known of showers, I am feeling all kinds of irked about mine coming up next weekend. I wasn't even sure if I wanted one or was going to have one, but my bridesmaids decided that I needed one. I felt strange about inviting people and now I feel strange about RSVP's that are coming in...whether they are yes or no. I also feel really kind of bothered almost that my girls and my mother (who is already helping me WAY more than I would ever ask) are planning it all, paying for it all and not letting me help.

It feels selfish. Don't get me wrong, I have never cowered away from attention and I appreciate everything these ladies and my family have done for me, but I'm not used to having something be all about me. When people tell me it's "your day!" I really can't stand it!

I don't know...I'm conflicted. Do people really like to go to these things? Or is it something they just feel bound to? Honest opinions, please! 

I think of it as an honor as well, I guess I just have this insecurity about people being there because they feel inclined to be. Something I definitely need to get over. 

I honestly love them and wanted to do even more for my MOH's bridal shower but her family did it all.

I hate them. I'm sorry. I don't even want them myself. I've been to so many in my life and as an adult, they are just as boring/painful/embarassing as they were as a child. To me, everyone has to ooh and ahh over dish towels. They take up HOURS on a Saturday afternoon and you usually end up eating fruit, pasta salad and punch...followed by cake. In addition to all of that, the games are just awful. Especially any game that requires you to 'steal' a present from another guest because the old ladies are vicious and in the end the 'present' is an ugly picture frame or a mini-calendar full of flowers.

Seriously, I've been to so many showers....I have over 30 first cousins alone. The typical shower as described above sucks. If you can make them fun, do it! I threw a shower for a girlfriend and it was both a surprise and also, a very simple brunch at her favorite restaurant. We brought gifts and she opened them but we also had bloody marys and amazing food. No games. No gift bags. It was soooooo much better than the ones that I've endured with my family. Urgh.

ok,  so i'm getting that the typical shower tends to be really lame but there are different ways to make it fun. i have no idea what mine will be like...but my friends and family are not the typical bunch, so maybe i shouldn't worry?

I am not a fan of bridal showers, but baby showers for new moms I enjoy. I made it clear to my bms that I DID NOT want a bridal shower, they're totally awesome and are gathering some ladies together for a brunch, no presents allowed. I don't like that the whole point of a bridal shower is to shower the bride with gifts, a wedding couple gets enough gifts at/for the wedding! Baby showers are nice because it's celebrating the pregnancy and giving the new expecting mom a fun time. IDK, that's just me, I've been to a couple of bridal showers that have been boring, awkward, no fun. I see that some look great though, themed ones that are more entertaining, but personally not for me. If your friends and fam aren't the typical bunch, I don't think you should worry, no matter what it is an honor and people doing something really nice for you.

I love showers--both bridal and baby.  It's nice to meet extended family and friends of the person of honor and at bridal showers give gifts you wouldn't normally give as a wedding present.

good to know! i'll just to make sure i dont spend ten years opening gifts. if my friends really love me, they'll definitely include tequila. Even if they don't, my aunts will, so I guess it's a win win situation. :)

I'm ehhhh about showers.  As long as I don't have to play stupid games I'm pretty much OK with.  I just hate having to answer questions about bride/baby. I'm kind of on the fence about opening presents.  I could care less about the stuff on the registry because anyone can those items in the store or already has them.  What I really like is the presents from Great Aunt Gertude-like the pillow cases that she knitted from 60 year old yarn that she had laying around, or the chipped vase that she regifted even though you saw it in her house from when you were 5 years old.  That is the stuff that cracks me up. I also like catching up with long lost relatives and friends.  

I've only attended a few showers so far in my life, one of them was a complete snoozefest, but it was at lunch time, however no food was served (rude!), it was pretty much "let's all sit and watch the bride open presents!" luckily the bride's sister is one of my good friends, and my sister was there, so I had a few people to talk to, the rest were older relatives I didn't know. 

But, if there's good food, friends, and not too many obnoxious games that you're forced to play, it can be fun!

I've been to a bunch of showers in my lifetime... some are fun, and some are NOT... and it's up to the planner to create an event that is fun and festive.  Yummy food, and time to chat with friends and family members can make a shower fun.  Yes, I'd like to play at least one game beyond gift bingo.  (Designing a tissue paper gown, learning how well do you know the couple, or doing a word search are all easy games that make the party seem more about getting to spent time with some special friends than just getting to give a gift.)  I like creative gifts, and think it would be fun to see something beyond the registry... a cherished heirloom, handmade pillowslips, or a creative basket of goodies are going to delight this girl. 

I find them enjoyable, but actually quite frankly didn't want mine either.....and same circumstances, my bridesmaid wants to host one, etc... I do think it causes to people have weird feelings though. Of course some people live for showers and love throwingthem.