Post # 1
If one more person asks me if it was a ‘surprise’ or ‘was it planned’ I am going to blow. Yes I’m 36, yes I have two children who are 10 and 12, and not that it is any of your business but yes we were hoping to have another baby! Since when is it ok to ask acquaintances about their sex life and if they were preventing pregnancy! What ever happened to a good old fashioned “congratulations”? I just needed to vent.
Post # 3
No but one time when I told someone I found out a week after the wedding, they said “Oh…that sucks…”. LOL who says that??
Post # 4
Yes. We just got married so people have been asking if it was a suprise. We we planning onTTC but got preggers before we could start! But I agree… it’s so none of your business.
Post # 5
I’m just about 13 weeks pregnant and figure I’ll have to start coming clean soon. I don’t even know what I’d say if someone asked me that at this point. Is “No, it’s actually the result of a two year struggle with fertility issues” an appropriate answer?
It’s true, but I’m mostly kidding. I’m not really sure what I’d say about that… Probably just “no, it was very much wanted” or if it’s someone that typically annoys me a straight up “that’s not really your business”.
Post # 6
No one has phrased it quite that way, but I did have a younger coworker ask me if we had been trying. And one of DH’s friends said “Congrats?” when told we were expecting. Yep, he phrased it as a question, and then went on to imply that we didn’t waste any time (We had been married ten months and together for six years).
I shouldn’t have been surprised. This same friend made fun of us for “smiling so much” in our wedding photos.
Post # 7
I thought we would get those questions since we conceived 2 months out and announced to our family around 3 months after the wedding. I’ve heard a couple of “you guys must’ve been on a mission” and “that was quick!” comments from close friends. My two brothers asked some version of “already?” and “was it planned?” I didn’t take it personally from either my brothers or close friends.
It really depends on the person delivering the comment.
Oh! My boss asked the question more tactfully, and I wasn’t offended either, but I think she’s awesome and love working with her.
Post # 8
ha ha ha we have had a few ppl ask us this..
One friend of Darling Husband asked “So how did it happen….”
I just replied “well i didnt get pregnant playing hard to get”
That shut him up.. he didnt know where to go with it.
Post # 9
No but when I had Ellie I was a senior in High school so I dont think anyone needed to ask lol…
Post # 10
I think we had maybe one genuine ‘congratulations’ all the rest were raised eyebrows and ‘what a shame!’ which was…nice :/ it wasn’t planned but that’s nobody elses business.
Post # 11
I am almost 9 weeks, and have to let people at my work know a week ago because I was so sick, tired and grumpy. One lady whispered, “was it an accident?”. We’ve been married 4 months, so of course it must be! 🙁
I’m pretty sure I had steam pouring out of my ears! It’s so rude and no ones business! I can’t believe people actually ask that question!!
Post # 12
@ndfreitag: LOL I can’t believe people ask you that!
Post # 13
I actually got asked that.yesterday. I went to cancel my spray tanning package (bc there’s not been enough research to show whether its harmful to be breathing in those chemicals) . I wasn’t bothered, personally, but that’s probably bc only a few months ago my dh swore up and down we’d wait a few years before trying. He had a biggg change of heart out of nowhere in november and well, now here we are. 🙂 I know the girl at my salon didn’t know that, but I kind of expect that question from people who know that info, when we finally announce it to everyone.
Post # 14
Yeah, but for us, it’s because everyone’s aware that we’re in possibly the worst position for having a baby, financially, at the moment. 😛 So, it made sense when telling friends to get the, “Suprise, huh?” or “Congrats…?” Mostly, it was a testing the water situation. They didn’t want to be all “OMG, congrats!!!” if they weren’t sure whether or not I was happy about the pregnancy. But, after they saw that I was happy, legitmate congrats were offered. From most. There was a certain person who, to this day, gets all super awkward about it and says off color comments. Smh. But, some people are just stupid about some things.
Post # 16
@mrsrangrang: I just about spit out my coffee reading that. That’s the best answer ever. Sometimes people deserve the akwardness that they provoke.