Guests inviting themselves! Do people even look at RSVP cards?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: ...
    Call the GM and tell him his family isn't invited. : (35 votes)
    74 %
    Let them come. FI gets along with them anyways. : (4 votes)
    9 %
    Is this real? : (8 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Wait, what? He mentioned his brother, but then your FI mentioned his parents? And the RSVP card was for the GM’s parents and some random female?

    Post # 4
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @OnceUponATime:  Call up said groomsman and let him know the invitation was only for him and a date, not the entire family.

    Post # 6
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you can fit them in, personally I’d just make the exception.  If not, I’d have your FI call him up or skype or meetup so you can make sure they are both clear on the details.

    Gah what an rsvp mess lol.  So they didn’t even correctly fill out their card incorrectly LOL.  They should have put 4 attending….even thought only 2 seats are saved…sheesh!

    Post # 7
    42082 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Remember this when it comes time to teach your children about invitation etiquette. Apparently his parents weren’t successful in teaching him.

    Post # 8
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @OnceUponATime:  Are you trying to have an intimate wedding, or the more the merrier?  You are definitely not obligated to allow uninvited guests to attend your wedding, and it’s suuuuper annoying that the GM put you in this position.

    Post # 11
    9856 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    this is ridiculous.

    Post # 12
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @OnceUponATime:  Oh wtf. I re-read this and it just made me laugh. Call him ASAP.

    Post # 13
    2270 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @OnceUponATime:  Very confusing……I know people can be pretty stupid sometimes but this just seems over the top…

    I think definitely a confused call to groomsman to ask what that RSVP even means first of all, and to remind him that the invite is for him and a guest, but I agree with @icetea:  and if you can fit them in I would. Ugh, super awkward though…

    Post # 14
    1771 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Definitely call him and explain that the invite was for him and a guest, not his parents and a random female! Smh

    FBIL’s wife just pulled this on us, actually. We sent an RSVP for 4 people (FBIL, his wife, their adopted son who is also the ring-bearer, and the wife’s son from a previous marriage who still lives at home with them.)

    The wife texted FI and said, “This RSVP is for Adopted Son and (her son who still lives at home and her adult daughter and adult daghter’s son who do NOT live at home)

    FI was like, “No, it’s for you, FBIL, Adopted Son, and Son Who Still Lives at Home.”‘

    So of course we got an RSVP with the 4 scratched out and replaced with a 6 – FBIL, his wife, Adopted Son, Son Who Still Lives at Home, and Adult Daughter and Her Son.

    Might I add that we have met Adult Daughter exactly twice and she could not even muster the politeness to say “Hello” to us either time? We don’t even know this woman and she’s been rude both times we’ve met her.

    Sigh. I understand your predicament!

    Post # 15
    1926 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Nope. This is just beyond RUDE at this point! You clearly stated TWICE his family wasn’t invited and he is RSVPing for them anyway? NO! Don’t let him get away with this behavior! 

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