Post # 1
Ok. We really can’t figure this out. So you may as well get a laugh out of it.
My fiance hand-delivered an invitation to one of his groomsman a few weeks ago. The envelope had (in bold, black writing, “Mr. Groomsman’s Name & Guest.” When FI visited with him a few days ago, the groomsman mentioned, “Hey, btw my brother won’t be able to make it.” FI looked at him at said, “You mean to the wedding? Were you bringing him as your guest? Did you look at the invitation? We only invited you and a guest. We’d like to invite your parents but can’t afford everyone.”
Well, lo and behold, his RSVP card came in today. It clealy says, (again, in bold, black writing) “We have reserved 2 seats in your honor”
They filled it out like this:
Number attending: 3
Names: Mr. and Mrs. Groomsman’s Parents and female name (
Uhhhhh??? WTF DO WE DO!?!?
Post # 3
Wait, what? He mentioned his brother, but then your FI mentioned his parents? And the RSVP card was for the GM’s parents and some random female?
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@OnceUponATime: Call up said groomsman and let him know the invitation was only for him and a date, not the entire family.
Post # 5
@OnceUponATime: wait what? Parents random female…? Im confused…
Post # 6
If you can fit them in, personally I’d just make the exception. If not, I’d have your FI call him up or skype or meetup so you can make sure they are both clear on the details.
Gah what an rsvp mess lol. So they didn’t even correctly fill out their card incorrectly LOL. They should have put 4 attending….even thought only 2 seats are saved…sheesh!
Post # 7
Remember this when it comes time to teach your children about invitation etiquette. Apparently his parents weren’t successful in teaching him.
Post # 8
@OnceUponATime: Are you trying to have an intimate wedding, or the more the merrier? You are definitely not obligated to allow uninvited guests to attend your wedding, and it’s suuuuper annoying that the GM put you in this position.
Post # 9
@vorpalette: … yes.. lol
@Little_Hedgy: hey! we are too 🙂
@icetea: exactly! According to the rsvp card, the groomsman won’t be there!
@julies1949: haha. Actually, we think his mom is the one who filled it out!
@jdhall89: We’re not going for super intimate or really large either. We invited around 200 and it’s looking like there will be around 160.
Post # 10
Bump! More people should giggle at this. lol
Post # 12
@OnceUponATime: Oh wtf. I re-read this and it just made me laugh. Call him ASAP.
Post # 13
@OnceUponATime: Very confusing……I know people can be pretty stupid sometimes but this just seems over the top…
I think definitely a confused call to groomsman to ask what that RSVP even means first of all, and to remind him that the invite is for him and a guest, but I agree with @icetea: and if you can fit them in I would. Ugh, super awkward though…
Post # 14
Definitely call him and explain that the invite was for him and a guest, not his parents and a random female! Smh
FBIL’s wife just pulled this on us, actually. We sent an RSVP for 4 people (FBIL, his wife, their adopted son who is also the ring-bearer, and the wife’s son from a previous marriage who still lives at home with them.)
The wife texted FI and said, “This RSVP is for Adopted Son and (her son who still lives at home and her adult daughter and adult daghter’s son who do NOT live at home)
FI was like, “No, it’s for you, FBIL, Adopted Son, and Son Who Still Lives at Home.”‘
So of course we got an RSVP with the 4 scratched out and replaced with a 6 – FBIL, his wife, Adopted Son, Son Who Still Lives at Home, and Adult Daughter and Her Son.
Might I add that we have met Adult Daughter exactly twice and she could not even muster the politeness to say “Hello” to us either time? We don’t even know this woman and she’s been rude both times we’ve met her.
Sigh. I understand your predicament!
Post # 15
Nope. This is just beyond RUDE at this point! You clearly stated TWICE his family wasn’t invited and he is RSVPing for them anyway? NO! Don’t let him get away with this behavior!
Post # 16
@vorpalette: @Sunshine09: @HeyKaraoke: @SweetartMD:
We’ll probably just let them come. FI knows them and has spent quite a few evenings at their house. We’re wonderig if GM thought the “2 seats in your honor” were for his parents since he’s a groomsman and doesn’t count? They’re not exactly the sharpest tools in the shed, and we’re under our venue’s minimum revenue anyways.