Post # 1
Growing up, people rarely ever just popped in to say hey or whatever. I mean, if we were out in the yard the neighbor might come over and say hi but that was about it. I’ve noticed, and maybe this is a Kentucky thing, but people don’t think it’s necessary to call and ask if they can stop over. It’s happened several times in the past month with a couple of my SO’s sort-of friends. SO doesn’t understand why I’m so annoyed. These people stop over about 20 minutes after we get in from work, usually around the time we’re sitting down for dinner. And they think nothing of interrupting our meal. Or sitting down and joining us… Is this rude or am I just a rude hostess?
Post # 3
My aunt and uncle used to do this, but they’re the only people I’ve ever known to do it. If a friend is in from out of town and they have time they might but its not a big deal. Ever once in a while it’d be fine with me, several times a month I’d get annoyed quickly.
Post # 4
Throughout my life, I’ve lived in IL, TX, MN, MA, PA, and NY, and I’ve never experienced this phenomenon. It would drive me NUTS if people just stopped by during dinner. When I cook, I make enough food for the people I know I’ll be feeding and that’s it! Unexpected guests would necessitate cooking more food from scratch.
Post # 5
yeah it happens a lot where i’m from depending on where you are. i HATE IT but i must say i dropped by my mom’s almost daily lol!!! however i much rather call… i mean what if you were in the middle of a racy sexy moment?! and i am not big on cleaning so i’d prefer my house to be clean before someone stops by, you know?
Post # 6
Holy smokes I’d not be happy if someone just SHOWED Up at my door. My roommate will sometimes call and be like, “hey are you home? i’m in the area” but she does call. All it takes is for it to be a few “bad times” for them to come by and I bet your SO will find it truly annoying. I can’t imagine doing this! It seems so rude and intrusive to me! Interrupting someone’s dinner is ALWAYS rude!
Post # 7
This happened to us last week. One of my BF’s friends text him and says hey I am right outside your apt I’m like WHAT!? then two seconds later he rings the bell and stays until like MIDNIGHT! Not to mention he was with his son!
I would never just pop at someone’s house without warning. Some people just dont think.
Post # 8
It’s the former owner of the house, his son and grandson that come over. It was for sale by owner when we bought the house so we all got to know each other and SO enjoys having them around since they know so much about the house. (SO is renovating the basement.)
It just drives me nuts when they come over without calling. I’m perfectly okay with them coming over pretty much whenever but I HATE when they don’t call. I’m glad I’m not a bad hostess for feeling that way. I mean, if they call first and it’s near a mealtime, I have no problem making enough for them and setting the table for extra people, etc. I just don’t like being interrupted. And I mean, it would be nice if they’d offer to bring stuff sometimes, like their own drinks rather than drinking every drop of alcohol in the house then leaving… lol, but that’s a whole ‘nother issue. And since SO foots the bill for all beverages and most groceries, it’s not really my place to say. He’ll either get tired of it or he won’t.
Post # 9
Lol it’s totally not just a KY thing, I promise. My neighbors at home drop in all the time- I never have any idea who’s at my house. Sometimes it makes me crazy but what can you do? That being said, it still annoys me and it’s not very nice… but sometimes friends are family. It sounds like in this case you really need to ask them (nicely) to call before they come over. It’s kinda… weird… or it would be to me, anyway. My neighbors in my complex drop by, but that’s cause they’re two of my good friends! One is from another part of KY, and the other is from PA.
Post # 10
My friends will kind of pop-in but they always call. But sometimes it’s like “Hey I’m 5 minutes away mind if I stop by?” I don’t mind that at all… but if people made a habit of just knocking on my door that’d be annoying.
Post # 11
Growing up (in a small town in SC), people would “pop by” our house all the time. When my ex-H and I were together, his friends and a few of mine, plus a neighbor or two, would stop by sometimes. We did a lot of entertaining – almost every weekend we’d have people over (it was our way of not dealing with our own issues, I think.) Now that FI and I are living together in a townhouse, it just doesn’t happen at all – I think I’d be a little wigged out if it did. My friends always call first.