Post # 1
I have been looking around on here and I can’t help but wonder if it is rude NOT to let people invite other people… I always thought that just the people you invite come to your wedding but now it seems like the people i invite are suppose to get their own guest list as well… I don’t completely understand this…
Post # 3
What do you mean? Do you mean your parents? or just friends and distant relatives?
Post # 4
If someone is married, engaged or living together they usually are invited to bring a date. So is someone who may not know anyone else at the wedding.
Post # 5
@SoontobeMrsA: ditto to what she said
Sometimes people are forced to invite their parents’ guests because their parents are paying for the wedding. We were lucky and did not have to do that!
Post # 6
I was thinking parents and bridesmaids mostly. I understand the bringing of a date but do they get to bring other people? My parents are’t paying for anything.
Post # 7
It’s rude to not invite a social unit together – i.e. H/W, engaged couple, established relationship. It is generally polite to extend a plus one to your bridal party/immediate family, but not necessary. Other than that, no it is not rude to not give everyone a plus one.
Post # 8
I have never heard of people in a wedding party inviting other people to someone else’s wedding! Is that what you’re referring to? So, I invite my maid of honor and her husband (2 peeps) and then she invites others on top of that????
Post # 9
You and your FI should decide the guest list with the input of your families of your families (especially if they are contributing financially). Others should not have input into this.
On the guest list, if you are inviting one person who has a SO (meaning living together, engaged, or married) then I chose to invite their guest.
Other than that, no one should be inviting people of their choice to your wedding.
Post # 10
“If someone is married, engaged or living together they usually are invited to bring a date. So is someone who may not know anyone else at the wedding.”
This is a new “rule”. Traditionally, you allow all single adult guests an escort. As far as other people, only the host should invite guests beyond an escort. People can (and will) have input, but the host is the ultimate approver and guests should not take it on their own to invite additional people.
Post # 11
@cyndistar3: No, its not at all rude to not let others invite their own guests to your wedding – its rude of them to expect to be able to do this.
You are the host – its your event and you determine the guest list, period.
Post # 12
I know what you mean – I see posts such as “my MIL won’t stop inviting people” or “I gave my mum 80 invites” and it confuses me. I understand that if your parents are paying for some (or all of the wedding), then you might need to consult them on the guest list, and maybe even agree to invite a couple of relatives that you don’t know to well or your old next-door-neighbour. But I don’t understand inviting people you don’t know or like, or letting other people invite people to your wedding.
Post # 13
It’s rude for people to think they can invite guests.
Post # 14
thank you everyone i think i have it straight now LOL so on the invitation do you just say plus one? I have no idea, this is all so new to me
Post # 15
If someone has a significant other that they’ve been with long enough that you know who they are and it’s safe to assume that that’s who they’d pick as their date, you can address both people by name. There’s some debate that you should send a second invitation to the long term boyfriend at his own residence if they don’t live together… but I didn’t do that.
For example, we’d invite my cousin and her long term boyfriend as:
Miss Lindsay Johnson
Mr. Shawn Smith
If they don’t have a specific partner, and you want to extend the option to bring a guest, you could do it like:
Miss Lindsay Johnson and Guest