Post # 1
So in looking over the RSVPs I have received recently, I have come across the following things:
The “M________________” is not hard people!
* My parents filled it out thinking the “M” stood for “Mom & Dad”
* I had a childhood friend hold on to her RSVP for a month because she didn’t know what the “M” stood for. (My brother also had to ask my mother)
I can’t tell you how many people put only their first names!
Several of FI’s family members put “nicknames” on their RSVP cards – I had one of them write down “Mr & Mrs LEE Smith” – Well no one w/ the name LEE was invited to the wedding – who the hell are you?!?!
Some people who were invited with a guest either didn’t put down their guests name or didn’t put anything (just their own name) but then checked off two meals – so I am assumiong you are bringing the guest? Or are you thinking you are going to be really hungry?
I did LOVE the fact that several of my RSVP cards had cute ittle messages written on them!
And I was smart enough to # each RSVP card on the back and keep a list w/ each guest and their corresponding RSVP # so I can figure out all the nicknames/lack of last names….
Post # 3
nope. I got one that simply had a red check on “accepts with pleasure” and the name was blank.
Why didnt we number the cards?
Post # 4
Hahahaa When my friend got married, I went over to help w/ her wedding invites and I # each of her RSVP cards as well and gave her a list w/ the names and #’s — she thanked me later on for it!
Post # 5
Thank goodness we wrote the names in for our guest, but our RSVP’s are like this:
2 seats have been reserved for
Mr & Mrs Guest
___ of 2 will attend
I have a feeling this isn’t going to work out well & I’m going to have to end up making a lot of phone calls.
Post # 6
@MrsJKH2be That was a great idea to number the rsvps!
Funny I was confused by the M once too. Did the numbers help you figure out who Mr. & Mrs. Lee Smith are?
Post # 7
@LisaC – yes it did! I just looked up the # and checked who had that particuler #. It was FMIL’s brother – I mentioned it to her and she said the only person who calls him “Lee” is his wife – guess who filled out the RSVP card?
Post # 8
the M thing makes no sense to heaps of people
My FIs dad is getting remarried and we got the invite and RSVP card recently
I went to fill it out (useless man can’t do anything) ticked the box that we would be there and there would be 2 of us.
then there was the M thing
I gave up and put it down to do another day
Meanwhile my Fiance asked his dad, and my mum told me (my parents have also been invited) what it was for
I ended up using the M as the start of FIs name (his name starts with M lol)
Post # 9
I am literally putting:
We have reserved ___ seats. (already filled in by me)
Who’s Coming: ______________________________________________
If people can’t figure that out, I don’t know what to do lol.
Post # 10
Being that I’ve been to multiple weddings I figure out what the M was. TBS, Mr.TKE still doesn’t understand it and ALL of our RSVP’s for our 6 (6!!) weddings this summer had the M. I explained it to him and I filled it out. On all of them (6!!!!!!) Mr.TKE and Ms.AXiD. Oh, boys!
Post # 11
One of the first weddings I went to had the “M” and I was like “what the heck” and I had to call my mom. That said, I was 23 and it was my first wedding as an adult. I am suprised at the number of people who don’t know how to fill this out though-I mean by 50 years old you should have been to a few weddings!
Post # 12
Really, I think the time has come to give up on R.s.v.p. cards. The argument for their use is that people don’t know how to write a proper R.s.v.p. and that the cards themselves can be stored in an index-card file as they come back to help in your organization. But let’s face it: if people don’t know how to fill out the form either it’s no improvement; and no-one in the twenty-first century uses index-card files either. We use spreadsheets and databases.
Between texting, email and websites, there are lots of options that people who want convenience can use to get the word back to their hostess; and people who prefer elegance over convenience can still use pen-and-paper.
Post # 13
While it should be self explanatory, many people honestly do not know how to fill them out, especially if they are not frequently invited to events that use that type of rsvp.
The M is a French abbreviation for Monsieur or Madame and the rest of the title is not written out. Most people don’t know that but they do know that RSVP is a French abbreviation for “reply promply, please”. To avoid confusion, if you are making your own invites, skip the M line altogether and print out the names of the invited guests on the card. If you order your invites from any company, you are stuck with the M line.
On the same token, the same number of people also don’t know how to put the cards in the mail and actually expect you to be a mindreader as to whether they are attending or not.
Post # 14
No, people do not know how to fill out RSVPs. I have had 3 come back with no name! One of which was my FI’s aunt! Good thing I numberd them or I would have been in trouble!
Post # 15
I didnt do the “M” because I know people get confused I did
We have reserved ___ Seats
_ out of
I am also numbering RSVPs I was telling my mom the other day and she was so confused that people do not fill them out correctly and some dont put names on.
Post # 16
I didn’t do the M__________ either. I just did a line with (guests names) underneath it. People seemd to understand what to do.
I actually do keep mine in an index card box and double check my excel spreadsheet with them. sounds lame, but I’d rather be thorough, then miss have a seat and a meal for somebody.