(Closed) Do people not understand how to fill out a RSVP?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
48 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

nope. I got one that simply had a red check on “accepts with pleasure” and the name was blank.


Why didnt we number the cards?

Post # 5
1222 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Thank goodness we wrote the names in for our guest, but our RSVP’s are like this:

2 seats have been reserved for

Mr & Mrs Guest

___ of 2 will attend

I have a feeling this isn’t going to work out well & I’m going to have to end up making a lot of phone calls.

Post # 6
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsJKH2be That was a great idea to number the rsvps!

Funny I was confused by the M once too. Did the numbers help you figure out who Mr. & Mrs. Lee Smith are?

Post # 8
53 posts
Worker bee

the M thing makes no sense to heaps of people


My FIs dad is getting remarried and we got the invite and RSVP card recently


I went to fill it out (useless man can’t do anything) ticked the box that we would be there and there would be 2 of us.

then there was the M thing

I gave up and put it down to do another day

Meanwhile my Fiance asked his dad, and my mum told me (my parents have also been invited) what it was for

I ended up using the M as the start of FIs name (his name starts with M lol)

Post # 9
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I am literally putting:

We have reserved ___ seats. (already filled in by me)

Who’s Coming: ______________________________________________

If people can’t figure that out, I don’t know what to do lol.

Post # 10
4900 posts
Honey bee

Being that I’ve been to multiple weddings I figure out what the M was. TBS, Mr.TKE still doesn’t understand it and ALL of our RSVP’s for our 6 (6!!) weddings this summer had the M. I explained it to him and I filled it out. On all of them (6!!!!!!) Mr.TKE and Ms.AXiD. Oh, boys!

Post # 11
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

One of the first weddings I went to had the “M” and I was like “what the heck” and I had to call my mom. That said, I was 23 and it was my first wedding as an adult. I am suprised at the number of people who don’t know how to fill this out though-I mean by 50 years old you should have been to a few weddings!

Post # 12
1696 posts
Bumble bee

Really, I think the time has come to give up on R.s.v.p. cards. The argument for their use is that people don’t know how to write a proper R.s.v.p. and that the cards themselves can be stored in an index-card file as they come back to help in your organization. But let’s face it: if people don’t know how to fill out the form either it’s no improvement; and no-one in the twenty-first century uses index-card files either. We use spreadsheets and databases.

Between texting, email and websites, there are lots of options that people who want convenience can use to get the word back to their hostess; and people who prefer elegance over convenience can still use pen-and-paper.

Post # 13
4485 posts
Honey bee

While it should be self explanatory, many people honestly do not know how to fill them out, especially if they are not frequently invited to events that use that type of rsvp.

The M is a French abbreviation for Monsieur or Madame and the rest of the title is not written out. Most people don’t know that but they do know that RSVP is a French abbreviation for “reply promply, please”. To avoid confusion, if you are making your own invites, skip the M line altogether and print out the names of the invited guests on the card. If you order your invites from any company, you are stuck with the M line.

On the same token, the same number of people also don’t know how to put the cards in the mail and actually expect you to be a mindreader as to whether they are attending or not.

Post # 14
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

No, people do not know how to fill out RSVPs. I have had 3 come back with no name! One of which was my FI’s aunt! Good thing I numberd them or I would have been in trouble!

Post # 15
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I didnt do the “M” because I know people get confused I did

We have reserved ___ Seats

_ out of   



I am also numbering RSVPs I was telling my mom the other day and she was so confused that people do not fill them out correctly and some dont put names on.

Post # 16
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I didn’t do the M__________ either. I just did a line with (guests names) underneath it. People seemd to understand what to do.

I actually do keep mine in an index card box and double check my excel spreadsheet with them. sounds lame, but I’d rather be thorough, then miss have a seat and a meal for somebody.

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