Do people often steal centerpieces??

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’ve heard of people taking centerpieces home, assuming that’s okay.  I’m sure that’s the case here.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

saschasoulrebel:  In some places it is common for the centerpieces to be taken home by the guests.Let’s hope the people who took them did so with that understanding. 

No one should do this unless they are 100% sure it is ok. I’m sure it hurts even more knowing that those closest to her are capable of stealing.

Maybe help get the word out that the pieces need to be returned?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m sure they didn’t “steal” them. I’m not sure how customary it is anymore, but centerpieces were often given to the guests at the end of the recepetion. People would be able to take them home as a gift. This is most likely what happened in your friend’s case. Although, the guests didn’t know that they weren’t able to take them. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

About 1/4 of our centerpieces got taken home. Some asked, some didn’t. I returned and sold the rest, but it isn’t unusual (though still rude) to take them. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

In Hispanic culture, it’s customary for guests to take centerpieces home, it’s like a second party favor.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We’ll be making an announcement that ours are NOT to be taken home for this reason.

We are also using many vintage sentimental items for our centerpieces and I’ll be really upset (and out a lot of money) if they get “stolen”.

Sorry this happened to your friend. The only time I’ve been to a wedding where the centerpieces were taken home is when they were florals… (one wedding was poinsettias in the gold foil like you buy them, one was for each guest, another was taking the plain vase w/ the center bouquet (one per table)).

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

we were begging people to take ours home at the end of the night. we WANTED people to take them! 

(but, as previous posters pointed out, it is NOT ok to do without knowing it is ok). 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Yes, this is VERY common!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I’m Hispanic it’svery common in our culture for them to take center pieces lol I don’t know why. They use that as their wedding favors but I’ve never ever seen it done anywhere else. 

 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only place I’ve ever heard of people taking home centerpieces is on the Bee, but it’s not done in my circle.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  JiminyCricket.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee

At my 1st daughter’s wedding, it was announced that the person whose birthday was closest to the wedding day take them. On a few tables, no one took them, so I gave them to someone else, who was still there. There’s no way we could have carted them (26) home. For the 2nd daughter, there were only 11, and we were begging people to take them. It was announced that the youngest person at the table take them, but again, half of them were taken by whoever was left. Both were black tie weddings, in PA, where it is very common to gift the centerpieces, after an announcement.

Someone did take 4 candles, from t he 1st wedding’s cocktail hour room decor, and we had to pay the florist for 5, since he only had a set of 5, and the last one was useless to him.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Banquet hall

In my opinion you never take ANYTHING, ANYWHERE unless it is handed and offered to you for that purpose. I was horrified at FI’s cousin’s wedding when people started walking off with the centerpieces. Then FMIL and the MIL of the bride came up passing some off to me. They were seasonal flowers, river rocks, mason jars and burlap. 

It was all well and good except that someone decided the bride’s bouquet was up for grabs. Not cool, man!

I’m going to have edible centerpieces because I don’t think I can stand watching people pillage everything at the end of the night.

Conversely, my aunt had centerpieces that were made to be taken and didn’t want her own bouquet. No one wanted them and FI and I ended up with most of them (cala lillies in full bloom) in our motel room because the ballroom wanted them gone. I spent the entire night sneezing.

 

ETA: It was mostly the cousin’s bride’s family from Georgia that took centerpieces, then the groom’s rural NY family followed suit because they didn’t know what to do. My aunt’s wedding was almost all people from rural NY with a small group from northern PA.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

people took our centerpeices with out asking… when i went through our stuff the next day i only had two left! 🙁 and i was planning on letting another bride use them .. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Gosh, mine are rented, I hope no one takes them!

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