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I think no matter what type of box you use for cards, you should have someone near the table watching it, until the ceremony begins, and then it should probably be moved to a locked room so that there aren't any chances of something happening to them. Even if you use a locked box, someone could take it and bolt. And get it open later.
Unfortunately I've read stories of people stealing cardboxes from weddings and no one knew until the wedding was over! So it happens. But I think one of the bees or someone on the boards mentioned putting bells in her cardbox in case any shenanigans happen -- I'm definitely borrowing that idea and also putting my cardbox in a place in the room that will be hard to steal from without attracting a lot of attention from those ringing bells ;).
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Oh and in the case of your birdcage, can you put a lock on the top and just have people skip the cards through the bars? I don't know the size of the cage but it does seem cards should fit without any problem.
Definitely have someone on card box duty! Then have them lock it away in your or your parents hotel room. Frankly, I'd be doing that with all gifts... if your at a hotel perhaps the hotel staff can arrange it? Our wedding is at a resort and as soon as guests are seated for dinner all our gifts will be locked up in the hotel office until the next day.
Thanks for the tips- I'll check out the bells but I'd assume the music would be too loud to hear bells. We're going to have someone watching it and are definitely going to put the table in the main ballroom, not the reception area, but I feel like even that can only go so far. Also don't some people put cards in there throughout the night, or does everyone pretty much do it before dinner?
I may look into a little lock if cards can fit in the slots.. would love to hear from someone who used this same birdcage.
I have the same birdcage and I'm just going to have someone up in the front to watch it with the presents and right before the reception starts my coordinator is going to put it someplace safe along with the presents.
I can't believe people actually steal at weddings. What is wrong with them?
I had to read that twice... I was about to say, man if someone would still from the wedding I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want that person there.
But then I read it again and saw you are in a more public venue. I would suggest talking to the banquet manager or DOC and seeing what options they can provide. You may also want to consider placing it in a more public area where people will be less likely to try and snag something. Then, have someone safely lock it in their room once it seems that no one else has any other cards to add.
Another option if you want the cage to be sitting out all evening (cause it is really cute!) is having the person watching the cage take all the envelopes out and put them in a safe place.
I think for the most part people will drop cards off when they come in. Then for the few that forget they can probably just hand it to a family member or hand it to you. I would definitely put someone on watch. Most times you will have greeters at the front, no? They can keep an eye on the "Cardbox".
The thing is I don't htink it is only a concern at a public place ike a hotel. You never know about servers, bartenders, etc even at a private venue.
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I have the same one and I think guests can just put cards through the slots on the top. We tried a few out and it worked fine. It's difficult to open, so unless someone tried to slide a card out, or walk off with the entire birdcage, I think you'd be ok. I would just have someone watch it.
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Ok great thanks so much! I'm going to try to make it so they have to slide them through the slots at least. For the most part I trust my guests but there are a few sketchy people who even though they are friends of either me or my fiance, theyve been known to do sketchy things when intoxicated. Other than them Iw orry about outsiders (people lingering in the hotel, servers, etc). My DOC says they can take the cards up to our room but I don't even know if I trust them, is that bad of me? I think I am going to ask my cousin to be in charge of this for me... she's great. Thanks so much ladies!
Ours was similar to yours--also from Save-On-Crafts--and it was just a bit too small for people to be able to put cards through the slots. Thus, we had to leave it open, even though I had originally hoped to have it locked. However, we put it right next to the security desk that people had to pass to get in or out. No one bothered it.
However, yours looks like it is a bit bigger than ours. If so, adding a lock could at least slow people down from removing cards. Then you just have to make sure someone is keeping a close enough eye on things to notice if someone tried to steal the whole box.
I've been to a ton of weddings that nearly all had open baskets for cards and none of them were stolen at any point, nor was anyone assigned to guard them. The one wedding that had a birdcage for cards, none of the guests knew what to do with it so any cards were given to the attendants to put away. If the guests at any of those weddings had been given a card box with just a slot, they still wouldn't know what it was for, and everyone involved are/were fairly intelligent so it's not a matter of stupidity, but just not being exposed to that type of thing at any point prior.
We're not getting a birdcage because our guests would not know what to do with it and are all used to regular baskets for cards. We aren't worried at all about anyone stealing them either.
To answer your question, bird cages are safe because most people can't fit their fingers in well enough to grab a card, and people would notice if someone was lingering around longer than they should.
The birdcage is a super cute idea! Maybe instead of a lock (if you didn't want to go that route) you could wind some wire/garland/ribbon in your colors around the top/bottom, so it's essentially not able to be opened, but doesn't look 'locked up.' Then it's a 'functional decoration'. 
I just had an aunt who was seated near the cardbox keep an eye on it, and empty it out if it got too full. She just put them in her purse.
The usual thing here is for guests to hand cards to the best man, or any family member they happen to know, from either side. I was thinking of having a card box, but I've actually never seen one at a wedding, so people would probably still be happier to actually hand them to a person.
Just a thought -- but if you want something less conspicuous than a lock, maybe wire the top/door of the cage shut with a wire whose color matches the cage? That way you still get the slowdown effect to deter stealing cards but it's not as blatant of a "i'm watching you" sentiment. ;-) (We're prob going that route fwiw)
In a perfect world everyone is honest. I think the birdcage is so nice yet so unsafe. Definitely have a an attendant for the gift/card table, as others have mentioned you can never predict integrity! 15 years ago my husband and I attended a friends wedding. We never got a thank you card which I thought was rude, only to find out that they never got the VERY expensive gift only the card! Someone actually pulled the card off of our gift and bothered to put it in the card box and then took the gift! Lesson learned that everyone isn't as honest as we would like them to be ... so ALWAYS enclose your card INSIDE the giftwrapped item.
Ya, it does happen. OFTEN. Ask any planner... it's really sad that someone would resort to stealing a card from a newlywed.
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So, we ordered a birdcage for our card holder but I'm a little worried about cards being stolen from it. I haven't seen it yet (shipped directly to my parents house) but my mom says guests have to lift the lid to put in a card, making it really easy to steal cards. She is concerned because our venue is a hotel, so I guess technically anyone can steal the cards.
Does this really happen to people? People stealing cards and all? Is there even a way to know? If you have a story please share!
We got the one pictured below from save-on-crafts. Has anyone used this and would you recommend it? Is there a way to so called thief proof it with the decorations? Or should we use it for a different purpose and get a locked box considering our venue?
Thanks!
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