Post # 1
FH and I are 32 and have been married 2.5 years. We are currently in a short-distance relationship (work 1.5 hours away, and FH works 80 hours a week while he finishes his school, so we live spearately during the week, see each other on the weekends plus one night a week). Last night some of our friends were meeting up for dinner. We had plans and ended up meeting for dessert. One of our friends told me that when they heard that “Guitargirl and MR. guitargirl are going to be here in 20 minutes,” someone else asked, “Oh, is guitargirl pregnant?” Where did that come from? I told FH and his comment was that our friends probably assume we are having fertility issues.
FYI- we don’t plan on having kids for at least a year or two. We aren’t pregnant because my birth control is working (so far).
I found this whole thing weird. Do you understand this? I find it kind of creepy that people are discussing my uterus and my supposed infertility.
Post # 3
That’s really strange. I don’t know why your Darling Husband would assume they thought you were infertile, if they were suggesting that you might be pregnant?
None of it makes sense. Not that comment, not your DH’s response.
Post # 4
No one thinks that! That is weird and I doubt anyone thinks that. Maybe the person that said that was confusing you with someone else or something. No one would just *think* that out of the blue for no reason- and your SO’s idea about why they said that is WAY off!
Post # 5
Maybe she was just curious? Maybe she heard it from someone else? I don’t think anyone would think that automatically. on top of that, if they were willing to ask if you were pregnant, when your friend said no, they probably would’ve asked why if they thought it might be fertility issues.
I agree with pp, though. DH’s response doesn’t make sense.
Edit: sorry just reread and saw that it said you are married. The FH in your op threw me off.
Post # 6
MY husband thinks that people think we are infertile because we have been married 2.5 years without having kids. Almost everyone we know gets pregnant within a year, so that is why he thinks that.
Post # 7
I feel like if they know you at all and are aware of your current living arrangements then it would be pretty obvious why you wouldn’t be pregnant or want to be pregnant.
Post # 8
I do not know anyone that has kids yet unless I met them in the midwest. My sister has been married 7 years, my Boyfriend or Best Friend has been married 3 years… They are all purposely waiting- so that thought has honestly never crossed my mind (and that just seems like such a rude and ignorant way for people to think anyway). We won’t start trying until we have been married 5-6 years. There is a whole world out there, and I wouldn’t not worry about this. I only know of people having kids right away in small towns or the midwest- and no one I know does that. Just saying- I hope my perspective helps. I don’t think people think that, and if they do, maybe they need to get out a little more 🙂 Especially in this “day and age,” a lot of people wait to have children and if you aren’t even trying, why would they be thinking that? It is non-applicable, invalid.
Post # 9
Yay for birth control working 😉
People are strange. You get married and then it is automatcally expected you have to have a baby within 2 years. Talk about predictable.
Just write this off as people being idiotic and nosy.