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Do people still do the garter thing?

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    wizard    10/11/08   Minneapolis, MN

    Is there any reason to get a garter (other than just the fun of having it made by someone fantastic on Etsy..) if I don't intend to do the whole "remove it from my leg while everyone is watching" routine??

     I had kind of forgotten about that little item, and now I'm debating skipping it.

    What do you think?

     
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    MissStargazerLily    July 12, 2008   Woodstock, NB, Canada

    A lot of people use that as their something blue. We are doing the garter toss (something my FI cared about..) But I mainly got mine because I thought it'd be cute with my lingerie!

     
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    rebecca    September 13, 2008  

    Check out the responses to a post by Miss Tiramisu on this issue -- it's so interesting how varied the responses are!

    http://www.weddingbee.com/2008/05/29/toss-up/

     
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    MissSnapdragon      

    I've made it clear that there will be NO garter toss.  But I do still want a garter, mainly because I realized that I have no something blue, and I am REALLY superstitious.  I saw some on Etsy that even come with a little sixpence (the last part of the rhyme goes, "and a sixpence in your shoe") and a teeny little pocket you can put it in when it's all done.  SO CUTE!  All my superstitions in one, except maybe for the "borrowed"...anyway I think the garter is a cute, fun thing to have that can be meaningful and a nice memento, even if it stays on your leg until the party's over. 

     
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    triciaj    April 19, 2008   Seattle (wedding in Iowa)

    I skipped it.  Putting my leg on display for the entire room was just not something I was looking forward to, haha.  I have known some brides that got one their husbands would like to wear on the wedding night (or, you know, whenever they, um, get down to business after the wedding.)  ;)

     
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    suzanno    7/12/08   Richland, WA

    We are not doing the garter.  We don't have a lot of singe friends in the first place, and so the tradition of throwing the bouquet and garter doesn't make a lot of sense.  Plus I just think it's kind of distasteful - the idea of FI putting his hands up my skirt in front of my dad and all my elderly aunts and uncles and his kids and removing an article of my underwear...  not for us.  We'll wait until we're at least in the limo after the reception to get that intimate, thank you very much.

     
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    quickbrownfox       dallas, tx

    We will not be doing garter either. I really don't like the whole idea, especially doing it in front of everyone. I'm also very ticklish, so that would definitely be a big problem for me :)

    I guess it's just depending on your preference. The tradition is still around but if you don't like the whole idea of it, i'd say just skip it!

     
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    darklady      

    I originally was dead set against the garter. But then we went to my friend's wedding last month where they did it and it was so much fun! The groom made a big show of being like, "aw man I gotta do this!" (putting his head in his hands at the embaressment lol) and it was very tame. Plus it was mostly our close friends participating so it was fun!

     
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    amysue    6/6/09  

    I think it partly depends on the age of your guests. Most of our guests will be 28+ years old and if they're single, they don't want to be singled out on the dance floor. Also, most weddings I've been to haven't done a garter toss, so it's not really expected. However, at the weddings I've attended where one has been done, it's been fun.

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    Cyd    July 17 and July 18 2009   Finger Lakes, NY / Thousand Islands, NY

    We are among those who will be skipping it...no garter nor bouquet toss for these folks. To me it is a silly waste of time rarely enjoyed by more than a very small handful of people. If you're not especially interested in keeping the tradition alive, I would feel free to skip this part of the reception...although it would always be cute to still wear one even if you don't do the garter toss.

     
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    VegasBride      

    I wore two.  My mom actually still had hers from her wedding to my dad (celebrating 31 years of marriage in October), so I used that as my something borrowed and then I had a new one of my own.  We didn't do the garter toss, but it made for fun "getting dressed" pictures.

     
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    bonniebelle101    March 15, 2008   Charlotte, NC

    We didn't do a garter toss but I still wore a garter and I'm really glad I did. I made mine (it's super easy, but I'd recommend not waiting until 3 days before the wedding to figure it out! Duh!). I used it to hold important things that I wanted to have with me. I'm pagan, my fiance is non-practicing christian, but his mom is really religious. We had decided to compromise by having a ceremony without religious references. (The last thing I wanted was my MIL having a heart attach right there in her seat when god was refered to as a "she".) But I still wanted to carry something with me that would signify my religious beliefs. So I used my garter as that place, since I was the only one who was going to see it. I sewed a small goddess charm that a good friend had given to me. I also sewed a four leaf clover/horse shoe charm. We were having a celtic/irish themed wedding and I wanted to have a horse shoe but didn't want to carry a honking one in my bouquet like the original tradition. It worked out perfectly. So long story,...longer... the garter can be a place for you to have very personal things that you might not want everyone asking about.

    Good luck!

     
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    Niki    05/31/2008  

    No garter here.  Not sure how it worked out but no one single came to the wedding.  I just wasn't into that tradition.

     
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    caliocteach    8/9/2008   California

    I am doing the garter toss -- I love the tradition -- it is so much fun and it is one of the few things my fi has actually talked about with regards to the wedding.  I bought a UCLA garter so that the lucky guy who gets it has a memory of our venue!

     
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    saltyveruca    4-26-08   Houston, TX

    I wore a garter and planned to toss it on my wedding day, but decided on the day of that I didn't really want to show my underwear to everyone. It probably would have been fun, but at the moment I was just not into it. Probably should have drank more.

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    Lindsy    October 16, 2009   California

    the last two weddings that i went to didn't have a bouquet or garter toss. we're not going to do a garter toss for a couple of reasons... i think it's an outdated tradition and isn't the classiest thing to do at a wedding (no offense to anyone that had one, just my feelings). i also don't like the idea of the guy catching it putting it on the leg of the girl who caught the bouquet.

     
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    artofkristen    November 11, 2011  

    Another one here, who will never be caught with FI's hand up her dress in public.  No thank you. 

     
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    I'm not doing a garter toss but I'm still wearing a garter...I don't know why.  I guess I just feel sexier, and that'll make me stand taller and really glow when the day comes.  It's kinda like "Why do you buy sexy underwear?" And the answer is because I like it!  So even if you're nixing the toss, go for it!!

     
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    YSAP2M    January 12, 2007  

    I added a little charm that is special to my husband to be. I'm excited for him to see it on the wedding day. I'm still undecided about a garter toss because most of our guests are married. I bet after some open bar I'll change my mind ;)

     
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    I put one on for the sake of a couple cute getting-ready photos and a surprise for Mr Breezy later, but I didn't take it off and toss it. Probably because I totally forgot I was wearing it. HA.

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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I'm wearing one (a Michigan one, as my "something blue"), but we are not doing the garter toss thing. 

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    mrsbee    March 5, 2005   New York, NY

    mr. bee didn't want to do it, and i didn't care, so i didn't even wear a garter. 

     
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    powderpuff    July 11, 2009   Chicago

    I'm torn about this issue as well. We're DEFINITELY not doing the bouquet or garter toss. In Mr. PP's group of friends, the guy who catches the garter puts it on the leg of the girl who catches the bouquet, and let me tell you, this is not a PG-13 event. Yikes. Mr. Powder Puff is dead set against the garter, and that is fine by me.

    But I might like to wear one just because. It's a bridal tradition, and it would look cute with my lingerie. So we'll see I guess.

     
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    LLauRRa    10/10/09   Dallas, TX

    This post makes me feel so much better! I was worried that people would be like, WHY ISN'T SHE DOING THE GARTERRRR?? Oh that Laura! She's no fun! *throws wedding cake bits at me*

    ... well maybe not that far. haha, but I was concerned about people missing it because it is one of the "fun" things... but as stated in other comments, I'm not terribly keen on the Mr's ultra conservative grandma watching him dive under my skirt searching for goodies.

    :) Thanks girls (: 

     
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    CourtneyCrocker    January 16, 2010   orange county,ca

    No toss. I'm definately wearing one because I think they're pretty and my fiance will like it later. I'm super into traditions but this is one I could do without... I wanna keep the wedding classy and PG :)

     
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    kayfi    7-24-09  

    I'm undecided as of now, but I think we'll end up doing the garter toss!

     
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    angee524    September 6, 2008   Missouri

    We did both the bouquet and garter toss, I don't really know why, I guess it just seemed like it was something we were supposed to do. It was fun though and we had a great laugh and it wasn't like my hubby had my undies on display for the world.

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    JeanL1984    October 16, 2010   Kingston, PA

    I think like many of the others here, I don't want everyone to watch while my boy has his hands up under my skirt!! I don't mind the tradition, and I'll probably wear one just for myself (and him!), but the whole world is not going to know about it!

     
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    sal75    3-14-09   OC, CA

    I'm on the fence about the garter-- we don't have that many single friends.  And yea, I don't like the idea of having his hands up my skirt in public.  ;)

     

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