Post # 1
Hey Ladies. I hate when people tell me this, Yes I guess they are trying to be nice? think they’re giving you “good advice” but it really annoys me. My great Aunt came over a few days ago and its the first time I seen her in years. She comes in, gives me a big hug and says “so your getting married?” with a big grin on my face a reply Yes! then she looks at me and says “your too young, dont rush these things, You should wait to get married” Compleate buzz kill lol. The whole night eveytime anything about the wedding came up she would just say Dont rush it. I just have to be respectful, sit there and smile. When people find out my age they say O dont get married yet, your too young, trust me you should wait. Im thinking to myself… You dont even know me…. but ok I wont say anything. Im not that young. I started dating my FI in 2009 so we have been together a good amount of time. its not like we are “rushing” into anything. By the time we get married I will have just turned 23 12 days before the wedding and my FI will be 23 as well turning 24 the next month.
Does this happen to you as well? does it get on your nerves?
Post # 3
People used to tell me All. The. Time. how I should wait until forever to get married. I wasn’t engaged yet and was SO tired of hearing it.
I’m 25 now, and people are asking me why I’m “waiting so long” to get married (FI and I got engaged in August and won’t have a wedding until next October).
Can’t win LOL.
Post # 4
inky_1 lol your getting married 5 days before me 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@FutureMrs.Spencer: It happens to me all the time. We’ll be 23 & 24, and will have been together for over 6 years when we get married. I just ignore them
Post # 6
@FutureMrs.Spencer: I can see how it would be annoying but I guess people are just remembering when they were your age and imagining how crappy it would be to marry the person they were with at the time.
I am sooo glad I’m not marrying the person I was with when I was 23 lol. I was just out of university, in my first job… and just moving into my own apartment from my mom’s house. And dating a jerk. Thinking back I was way too immature to get married. I’m not *that* much older now (I’m 27), but a lot has happened in the past 4 years.
Just ignore them. I think that taking the high road as you have been shows you are mature 🙂
Post # 7
If it makes you feel better, when I got engaged (I’m 27) my brother said “But aren’t you too young?” He was 27 when he got engaged and has been married for 7 years, after I pointed that out he was like oh yeah, right, great! I think sometimes its hard for peopke that you have known for a long time (especially older family members) to see you as your real age, and they still think of you as being like 12. Just be gracious and show your maturity though your actions.
Post # 8
YES! I see family friends, or FBIL (who is like 7-8 now) and I still see them as being toddlers. I think people just forget that you age and see you as a kid.
Your aunt probably forgets that you’re an adult capable of making life choices. She most likely thinks of you as a 14 year old that can’t decide what clothes to wear in the mornings.
Post # 9
hahaha yeah you girls are right thats probably so true
Post # 10
I have the opposite problem. SO and I are both 23, been together for a little over 2 years and I get asked a million times a week WHEN we are getting married. I’m the one having to say we don’t want to rush.
Post # 11
Now that I’m 26, people are happy that I *finally* found someone. lol Just let it go when they make such comments.
Post # 12
It happened to me all the time before my first marriage. I was 21 and my then husband was 23. Then we got divorced 5 years later… we were too young, among other things.
And… now I say it to other people.
I know for some people, it’s the right decision, and that’s great, but if the comment makes just one person think a little harder about not rushing into a marriage that may not be right, then it’s made a difference.
Try and get to the heart of the commenter’s intent; are they saying this because they know you and your FI and they truly don’t think you should be getting married OR are they just saying that because that’s what older people say to younger people? I bet most people are just saying that, but ask them a follow up question just in case they might be seeing something you aren’t.
Post # 13
I know EXACTLY what you mean! I will be 22 when I get married and sooo many people tell me I’m rushing everything and that I should be out living it up instead of getting married! My FI is 3 1/2 years older then me and we will be together for 6 years when we get married engaged for 18months and I get told I am rushing things… It just drives me up the walls! It usually comes from the people I dont expect it from…
Post # 14
yeah that makes sense. However She has never met my FI and She has lived in az lmost her whole life and since I grew up in Ny I think I have only seen her about 6 or 7 times now in my whole life so Its not like she really knows me either. Its the people that dont know me or us as a couple who say it. Of corse my friends think I should be out partying with them instead of staying home planning a wedding lol but every one who knows us is 100% behind us.
Post # 15
Someone online did once (not here), but that’s been it. Everyone I know has been really supportive about it all, which was really, really surprising.
It might be a cultural thing, but it might not.
Post # 16
October 12, 2013~ A lot of October Brides lol
I hate it when people tell me that. (1) I don’t know what they expect to get out of their suggestion “Am I too young, I didn’t know that was your opinion! We’re calling it off today! Thanks for your support” (2) You don’t know me enough to judge where I am in life. (3) Mind-yo-business, help us celebrate or say nothing at all. (4) What makes you so smug to think you have the right to offer such an opinionated suggestion?
Thanks for the outlet 🙂