Post # 1
So, I was grieving my 14 year old sister’s death, and the end of my first relationship, the guy I lost my virginity to.
My now SO and I were acquaintances, not necessarily friends. He called me at 9 pm and asked if I wanted to come over. I said sure, but thought he was quite ridiculous if he thought I was gonna sleep with him. I went to his house and we hung around and started drinking a little. Next thing I know, I was all over him. He tried to stop me since he said I was drunk (I actually wasn’t)but then he relented. So we had sex and I told him I loved him (jeez, during the sex lol).
The next day, I was ticked off about having had sex with someone I wasn’t even with and I was barely even friends with him. I grumpily informed him I don’t “do” one night stands and we should start dating now. He meekly agreed lol.
Fast forward to 8 years later, and I’m happy we got together but wish our first time had been a little sweeter lol. He still teases me about it.
Btw, my view on one night stands has changed. I don’t care if (single) people have them now but when I was 16, I thought they were evil.
So, how did the first time with your SO happen and what was it like?
Post # 3
The first time with SO was after a party at a friend’s house…we had been dating about a month at that point and had been having some SERIOUS makeout sessions. At first, he couldn’t find his condoms so he left the apartment (with me half-naked on the couch!) to run to the store and get some. Then, about thirty seconds later he busted back in the door screaming “I REMEMBER WHERE THEY ARE NOW!”
The actual sex was alright, nothing mind-blowing. I found out later that he had only “done it” one other time with one other girl so that explained his nervousness and slight awkwardness. Over time, though, lemme tell ya. The man has become a machine and he is GOOOOD! hehehe
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Uhm. I had never had sex before, and the first time we tried, I actually pushed him off me after like 20 seconds haha. The second time it still hurt BAD (although he was gentle and going slow) but I felt really loved so idk? None of the poll answers fit my experience lol.
Post # 5
It lasted about 1 minute tops. He hadn’t had sex in so long that he came wayy to quickly. 2 years later, I have him trained pretty well and things have gotten A TON better in that department 🙂
Post # 6
Hah, we both agree it was kinda awkward. Neither of us were virgins by a long shot, but it almost always is awkard with a new partner, so I wasn’t exactly expecting mountains to move. It didn’t take long to get awesome. :p
Post # 7
I voted it was bad.. but IT WAS HORRIBLE!! LOL he was very rough and it was quite painful! I had not had sex in a few months and he well… not going to go into it. Ya we always joke about it though, I cringe when I think about it haha.
Post # 8
Our first time was on the futon in DH’s fraternity room after we’d been dating somewhere between 2 and 3 months. It was my first time so I was a little nervous and had had a couple of drinks to calm my nerves (I wasn’t drunk, just barely buzzed and a bit more relaxed). DH tried to turn me down at first because he thought I’d had more to drink than what I had and he didn’t want my first time to be while I was intoxicated.
It was a little awkward at first simply because I had no idea what I was doing and DH wasn’t very experienced either (he’d had sex maybe 3 or 4 times before me). But once we got going, it was actually very enjoyable sex. We’ve since improved and it is even better now but I wasn’t one of those people who’s first time was just bad.
Post # 9
I cannot say I remember the first time with my SO…whoops, as it was intended as a one night stand due to too many drinks ingested. However, the next morning, again whoops, I remember it being good enough for another ‘go’, and BOY I was right 🙂
It just kept getting better and better from there, as the one night stand turned into a full on relationship pretty quickly. To date, he is MY BEST!
Post # 10
It was a little awkward. Nothing terrible. I deifnitely had to take the lead, though, because I grabbed SO’s v-card. He wasn’t completely clueless or anything but I definitely had to tell him some things.
Thankfully things have gotten WAAAAY better.
Post # 11
@MissGreenBean: ahahahhhaha “I REMEMBER WHERE THEY ARE NOW!”
my first time was okay. hurt a lot and I was bleeding. second time wasn’t much better, but the third time onwards was good 🙂
Post # 12
Haha. I love that you asked this. My first time ever was with my FI. TECHNICALLY it was our first date (as I like to joke) as we had been best friends and REALLY close for over 2 years, but the first time we saw each other (it was a LDR for a while) after deciding to date, we didn’t waste any time!
I’m pretty happy with my first time. It was on a king sized bed in Atlantic City with a view of the ocean. He DID have to tell me to thrust back though. O_0 I got better thankfully.
Post # 13
our first time together was good, it wasn’t mind blowing or anything, but it wasn’t awkward at all and we both were satisfied.
Post # 14
I was more asking what the circumstances were. How did the first time happen?
Post # 15
It was my first time ever, and our first time together, and it occurred several days after our wedding, while we were on our honeymoon in the Caribbean. We had the most amazing honeymoon suite. There definitely was some awkwardness, but it was very special for both of us, since it was the moment that we consummated our marriage covenant.
ETA: I should also add that I had waited a very, very long time for that moment (I was 47 when I finally married), so I would say that it was a major, major event in my life. 🙂
Post # 16
@Brielle: Holy hell! That’s crazy on many accounts. There is no way i could wait until 47 lol. Plus I’d be scared having sex for the first time after I’d already married the guy. Had you done anything sexual together before the marriage took place? I can’t believe he was able to resist.