Post # 1
Hi Bees….since we are THIS close to having our date on the calendar, I am starting to look at STD’s and invitations. I am having a horrible time…I want the invites to match the STD’s, but not all the STD’s I like are offered as an invitation suite.
Do the STD’s have to match the invites? Did any of you order STD’s that were very different from the invites? My obsessive nature wants them to match, but there are so many STD’s that I love that I am having some trouble picking them. I know most people throw out the invites/STD’s…but I can’t help obsessing. Help!
Post # 3
I’m totally anal retentive and mine didn’t match! We made our STDs on card stock but our invitations were super expensive and done professionally. I think as long as there is a common theme or color scheme to tie them together you’re totally fine!
Post # 4
@Moose1209: good! I am being reallyyyy anal about this because there are so many adorable STD’s out there and invitations and I am being really indecisive. I just ordered 5 STD samples, hahaha, and not all of them have matching suites for the invites. OH WELL.
Post # 5
I don’t think anyone is going to post the STD on their fridge, and then 4 months later when they get the invite, hold them both up next to each other and be like,
“OMG THEY DON’T MATCH!!! I’m so confused!!! What the heck is their ‘theme’?! How am I supposed to buy a present or pick my outfit for their wedding if I don’t KNOW WHAT THE THEME IS?!?”
(ok, no, but seriously…)
Post # 6
@red_rose: Haha, yes, exactly! I like the way you put it. I would love to see one of our guests totally outraged that the designs didn’t share any underlying elements or color schemes…
Ours don’t match at all, we just picked the ones we liked both for each of them! I always try to remind myself that no one will agonize over the details like I will.
Post # 7
There is so much time between sending STDs and actual invitations, that I wouldn’t worry about it. I haven’t even thought about the invitations! I doubt anyone besides you will notice 🙂
Post # 8
I’ve seen it both ways. For us, we wanted the typical photo postcard STD. We did match the color, font, and used the same border we designed for our invitations so they do tie together.
Post # 9
If you want them to match, but they don’t come with a matching STD/invitation, just design your own using similar elements. If you are going through etsy or some place that does custom work, you could see if they would design an STD/invite to match too.
Post # 10
My save-the-dates and invites had some common elements, like color scheme, general font usage, etc. You could probably identify them as being part of a “collection,” but they certainly didn’t match at all.
Post # 11
my invites and STDs dont match at all. Our invites are very much in like with our modern theme where I wanted to be a little fun with our STDs. We ended up putting the STDs in black pocketfolds though and also had calligraphy done on the outside to make them more formal.
Post # 12
Ours didn’t match, but they coordinated. I don’t think it matters much, though. Most people probably won’t even remember them!
A word of unsolicited advice, though: You said your date isn’t on the calendar yet (but it’s close)? I’d definitely wait until you have your venue set for your date to actually send out the STDs. You never know what’s going to happne, and once the STDs go out, you’ll start getting a lot of really specific questions.
Post # 13
@seven12: I’m putting the deposit on the venue tonight, so I want to choose them soon, aghhh..how will I ever make a choice! I wasn’t sure two days ago how much longer we were gonna wait, but FI looked at the contract last night and signed it and gave me the check! PHEW!!
@red_rose: HAHAHAHHA call me crazy, but I am worried that someone WILL do that?!
@MrsNeutrino: Those envelopes are so beautiful, I can’t stop staring.
Alright. I just ordered samples and there are some that are very non-theme specific, so I think we should be good. I am going to get a simple save the date, and save the fun stuff for the invites.
Post # 14
Ours didn’t match or coordinate.
My STDs were fun, quirky, who we are as a couple. My invites were traditional like our wedding. I loved them both, but my STD is what’s displayed at my desk.
Post # 15
Mine are cohesive but only out of coincidence. Same-ish color scheme and what not. But that’s it.
Post # 16
@soyjoy222: Ah okay… I just saw one STD recently where the jist of it was “Soo we think we’re getting married on this day in July 2013 and it’s gonna probably be somewhere in this town. So save that date-ish.” It had nothing specific and they were professionally printed and probably expensive! I’m a big believer in not ordering something concrete like an invitation or STD until you at least have a date and venue nailed down LOL!
Once you have the contract submitted and the deposit put down you’re all set. Just have fun with the STDs. It should be whatever you like. Everything doesn’t have to match perfectly. I’ve been to a few weddings recently where the formal invitations didn’t even match any of the other wedding-related stuff. Most people don’t care and won’t judge. There’s always that one jerk who judges everything, but people like that are impossible to please anyway. Don’t sweat it!