Post # 1
My Fi is Jewish and I as you can tell from the Avatar, am AA. As if planning the ceremony wasn’t daunting enough…one of my BFFs asked a question that made me pause:
‘Since family are basically bible-beating Baptists, and his side are Jewish…what are you going to serve at the reception?’
OH HAYL NO!!!
How in the world will we pull this one off?!?!
Are there any Brides out there who have had to pull of the ‘impossible’ for their weddings/receptions? If so, do tell!
Post # 3
does his family keep kosher? how strict are they? (separate sets of dishes, or just kosher style)?
it’s easy to make most dishes kosher. just don’t serve something like shrimp and grits.
Post # 4
For the most part they do not. However.. if for no other reason than respect, I think some semblance of an effort has to be made.
<smiling> Thanks for the tip!
Post # 5
Kosher greens. Wow. I have no clue.
Maybe you should talk to his family and find out if there are any restrictions or if they have any suggestions on what you can serve. I think labels are going to be important.
Post # 6
Oooops!!! The ‘Kosher’ collard greens tag is just a lead in for the topic at hand. Sorry about the that Ladies.
Post # 7
Haha, this made me laugh. 🙂 I totally relate. I’m vegetarian (also Jewish, but we didn’t keep kosher – my mom loves bacon) and from the south (well, sort of – Texas gulf coast) and have lots of AA friends, so I know the dilemma of “here, have some greens!” all too well, lol. I really think the key is talking to his family about what level of kosher they usually keep. Some people won’t eat pork, but don’t have a problem mixing dairy and meat, for example. Once you figure out what they are and aren’t comfortable eating, talk to your caterer – a good one will be able to create an amazing spread even working within those conflicting requirements.
Also, yes, I have had vegetarian greens – but full disclosure: I thought they were yummy, but my FI thought they were just not the same without the pork.
Post # 8
Oh my d*yum!! I just reviewed my post…with the insane, syntax errors and hideous typos <ack>!! I apologize for that Ladies. Nonetheless I’m tickled over the fact that all of you were able to get the gist of my momentary panic attack!!
Ms. Mightywombat ~> Thank you for having a sense of humor AND for the timely tips!! Soon after reading your reply I was reminded of the menu at my FIs cousins wedding that we attended prior to my deployment. There were seared, dates wrapped in bacon, melon and prosciutto, and a host of other delicious offerings that were inhaled without complaint from just about everyone. So the Kosher question has just answered itself! As for our reception and whether or not we’ll be bold enough to serve pork-flavoured groceries…I don’t think we’ll be that bold.
Oh!! Since I don’t eat pork, I make greens with smoked turkey or vegetarian style with extra peppers for zip!! And whenever I serve them to my family…if noone peeks into the pot they never know the difference!!
Post # 9
Oh, and I should add that the part of our caterer’s menu that my Jewish mother is most excited about is bacon-wrapped scallops. Pork AND shellfish FTW.
Post # 10
Oh my d*yum!!!!! <LMBO> That’s classic!
Post # 11
hahaahha this is so funny. Good luck 🙂
I would just say don’t use pork for anything. I had a bunch of Mexicans, AAs, and a few bad-dancing white people at my wedding. It was interesting. A mexican relative even asked my pastor what it was like to be Baptist (just because he’s black, but not baptist at all). But, intercultural weddings are more fun anyways! Good luck!
Post # 12
I agree with @DanielleZara: about no pork. If you stray away from pork or pork products, and if possible a not mixing of dairy and meat, you’ll do less offending. 🙂 But, ultimately…just to go with stereotypes (speaking as a Jewish person), Jewish people like free food. And most won’t be too upset unless they’re super strict and kosher, in which case they may need to make their own food plans.
Post # 13
Hmmm… A Southern Baptist family event without swine??? In addition to hiring a few Top Flight Security guards, I’m going to have to compensate by stocking extra brown, liquor behind the bars to keep them from pulling foil-wrapped pork chops from their purses!!!! <smh>
@judithsr: after witnessing my FIs families enthusiasm over the menu at his cousins wedding reception, I think that we’ll making his fam uncomfortable. Thank you for the feedback!
@DanielleZara: I can’t believe someone actually asked the pastor that!!!!! <LoL> What was the pastors reaction??
Post # 14
@MsChievous08: lol I don’t know, I didn’t even ask or want to know! He prolly looked at him like he was crazy hehe
Post # 15
This post is too funny…
Now, my “surrogate family” growing up was Jewish, but they didn’t keep kosher. I agree with you that it would be nice to at least try and make an effort to his family. I would do the following: make sure that sides are not topped with bacon, if you do provide a pork entree, keep it seperate and ask the caterers to make sure none of the utensils are cross-contaminated, and definitely don’t have any of the other entree’s covered or stuffed with cheese. There are so many varying degrees of kosher, but I’ve noticed that lots of Jews that don’t keep kosher will still shy away pork products.
Post # 16
I would ask his parents about their side and if they keep Kosher. That will make his folks feel better you are being respectful. It’s a shock for their family that their son isn’t marrying Jewish; just as your side is wondering what you are going to do about Baptism and Christmas!. It has real significance for them because in the Jewish faith, the woman carries the faith the child will be.. Resepcting what they say, go ahead and plan your wedding reception [what are you doing about the service?].
As a Baptist, I suppose there will be no alcohol, correct?
There is plenty of food you can serve and you should then find a caterer or a function hall which serves kosher food.
Pls let us know what you decided and how it works out. You still have plenty of time to work on the menu.
I love the idea of turkey w/collards! YUM. But everyone may not be partial to collards or may not have even eaten them before. How about this? Have a kosher turkey as the entree for everyone and a buffet of different greens? Also will your side be happy with collards not cooked w/bacon? DOUBLE YUM. Will they be OK w/olive oil and garlic? STILL YUM.
I would add however on the RSVP card, “Out of respect for Jack’s Jewish heritage, our recpetion buffet [or dinner] will be kosher.”
You could really play up the Baptist ‘church supper’ idea and serve kosher corndogs and kosher hotdogs, kosher pulled beef. You could decorate in red / white check table clothes and have picnic baskets filled w/rolls. You can serve root beer [no floats though becasue that’s dairy] in kegs. You could really do this up cute.
But if you’re looking for a more glam event, go w/the turkey and buffet of different greens.
Let us know….