Post # 1
Wedding is over and overall is we perfect! I am so happy to be married. I’ve been with my FI for 10 years so I thought “ok no big deal, we get married, I’ve been with him so long”. But the feeing IS so different. I’ve never felt happier.
We were married in a Country Club, had a Photo booth (recommend), candy buffet, violinist and cellist! A few snags as follows:
1) My Maid of Honor thought she lost the ring! She left it up in the room so I had to use the officinats ring. We found it last minute but I was so frazzed I still used the officiants ring. I am so mad at her for forgetting this! And also mad at myself for not switchign out the rings once they found it.
2) My photographer was ok. The PICS are gorgeous however I feel not enough of me and FI. Is this my fault? AND I never checked my makeup again after the wedding (which was outside) so I feel I look bad in some pics. Probably being too critical. And WHY didn’t I give him a shot list. I had it on my to-do’s
3) Lastly speaking of makeup I had it done which was really nice. But i wore black eyeliner which I never do and shadow which I never do. So in some pics I think I look odd. Everyone said I look beautiful but 2nd guessing I should have just done my own makeup. Again can’t change it!
So anyway…is this normal to have regrets/feelings you should have done things differenty? Does everyone look at things and critique it? Especially maybe how they looked or something? Am I being ridiculous???
HOW DO I STOP beating myself up over the “i should have done this or that” syndrome. I am driving myself crazy. I guess all that planning and every bride wants it perfect.
Post # 3
@alicat2: I feel the same way about a lot of things. I think it’s normal. 🙁
Post # 4
Yes you are normal. I have a few regrets too (like forgetting to bring lipstick along for pictures after the ceremony!) but we had a fabulous wedding, fabulous pictures and I am not letting the little things ruin our memories.
Post # 5
I have some too.. a lot of mine to do with the photographer (not telling him which pics I really wanted) and the dj.. but hey.. you got to marry your husband.. thats the best part 😀
Post # 6
I think its totally normal. Brides plan for so long and put so much thought into every little detail. However, inevitably, something goes wrong or gets forgotten during the day. So while its fine to think oh man I wish this hadn’t happened, as long as you don’t dwell on it and realize the bigger picture, you’re married and happy. I think its fine.
Post # 7
i think its normal. i been married for two days and havent seen many of the pro pics but seen some from the guests and with all the circumstances of my wedding day i am trying to let it go and just be happy. the groom is fine- his appointment is on wednesday. yes i could have bought 200-300 pounds of candy but who would have thought guests would be starving because everything got pushed back because of the medical emergency. i though 135 pounds of candy was alot.. it was gone quick.
anyways as long as you and groom are happy and healthy wedding is just a great time. dont sweat the small stuff its in the past now. just be in the present and look ahead to the future.
Post # 8
@asianyoushi: oh my gosh what happened?
Post # 9
It’s normal. Try not to let it eat you alive. You’ll get over it in time (and that depends on the type of person you are). Just try to focus more on the positive.
Post # 10
@alicat2: my husband had a siezure right after being dropped off at the church for the bridal party formal pictures. im not exaclty sure what had happen because while the guys and ring bearers and flower girl got to church in the first trip the limo took my brides maids and i were at the hotel waiting for him( literaly two freeway exits away- 10-15 minutes or so. so when we pulled into the church parking lot there was a city police car at the entrance and my main photographer runnning towards the limo saying the groom had a siezure and the pastor on the phone directing the 911 dispatcher to the church. there is a post in recaps