Post # 1
We’ve decided to have a backyard/tent wedding. The ceremony will be outdoors on grass (in a horse pasture so ground isn’t the smoothest) and the tent will be on gravel. Do we warn guests about this so they can dress appropriately? and how would we word that?? “Don’t wear heels?” …sounds too bossy…
I know if I was invited I’d like a heads up just not sure how to put it and where we’d mention it.
Post # 2
I would make note of it on your wedding web site and also spread it by word of mouth.
Something like “The ceremony and reception will take place on the lawn with both grass and gravel terrain – select your footwear accordingly!” on the web site should do the trick.
Post # 3
Your invite should speak for itself; if you say that it will be in your backyard (or probably a fancier way of saying the same thing), then they should know. And word of mouth will be a good way for this too. If someone shows up wearing heels (which they probably will, since there’s always one), then it’s their own fault and you shouldn’t be concerned about it.
Post # 4
SimpleCountryLife: “casual attire”. You may get some people in jeans but at least your guests will be comfortable.
Post # 5
We did a Q&A on our website with general questions… here is a list of questions we used :
About the Wedding
Q: What do I wear?
Q: Can I bring my kids?
Q: Is there handicap access?
Q: What is the weather like in October?
Q: Are there any pre or post-wedding activities?
Q: Will travel be required for the reception?
Q: Where do I park? Are there any parking fees?
Q: When are RSVPs due?
Hotel, Transportation & Accommodations
Q: I will need to fly in, where should I fly into?
Q: Where is the nearest hotel?
Q: Will there be transportation from the hotel to the venue provided?
Post # 6
Maybe”The ceremony will take place on uneven terrain. We understand and encourage sensible footware.”
Post # 7
SimpleCountryLife: You can add the information to your website of you have one. You could also add an insert to give them the information you gave us.
Please choose your footwear to keep you safe in our yard and on the gravel surface of the reception tent.
Post # 8
SimpleCountryLife: You don’t have to tell them what to wear. Just letting them know the location/terrain of you venue will be enough for them to make their own decision.
Post # 9
jenilynevette: SUPER helpful!! Thanks!! We’ll try something like that probably
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I assume it’ll be warm weather, so I’d consider having a “flip flop” basket for your guests too. Spread info by word of mouth and the website but for guests who didn’t know, it’d be nice to give them options for comfy flat shoes.
Post # 11
SimpleCountryLife: I disagree that just because people know it’s in a backyard that does not automatically mean no floor. I’ve been to lots of tented events where they rented a floor for under the tent. Our Friends just had a backyard wedding and I thankfuly asked the bride because it was all on grass and I was planning on wearing heels! (I still did I just bought the caps for them and brought flip flops). If I were you I would have a basket of flip flops ready for people just in case!
Post # 12
amberback: BWLE: I’d love to have a flip-flop basket but we’ll be having over 300 guests and financially there’s no way we could do that… we’re already having blankets, bug spray, sun screen etc on hand in case, I can’t provide shoes as well (trust me I thought about it but its just too expensive) which is why I’ve come to the second idea of just warning people instead…. I think either way someone’s going to be unhappy
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
SimpleCountryLife: well, you don’t need to buy a pair for everyone and you shouldn’t need to worry about the guys at all. Check clearance at Old Navy and the dollar stores. Especially now at the end of summer when everything should be discounted. If you have 300 guests, they probably wont all come. Half of them will be women. Some of them will be close friends and know to wear the right shoes. Some will probably be older ladies who’d be wearing sensible footwear anyways. Some will probably be children. I think if you even had ~25 pairs of flip flops it’d be more than enough. (Of course make sure you give warning.)
I’m mostly thinking about women who will be +1s at the wedding. When my fiance and I are invited to one of his friends weddings I usually don’t know much more details than when/where unless I look at the invitation myself.
Post # 14
I went to a wedding that was basically in the dirt/mud and wasn’t warned enough. I think I was wearing wedges and it was still miserable getting shoes I really liked dirty. I would make it really clear on the website what the terrain is like. Don’t tell them what to wear but make sure they are sufficiently warned.
Post # 15
SimpleCountryLife: Website or separate insert card included with the invite 🙂