(Closed) Do we have to do a rehearsal dinner?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think you have to do anything.

My sister’s wedding had about 60 guests and they just got married in the venue where they had the reception.  They barely even had a rehersal never mind a dinner. 

Our wedding will be 120 people max.  We will be having something just at our house the night before.  Just with our families, the minister, flower girl and her family, etc.  We will probably just have a bbq or take out.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You certainly don’t HAVE to, but don’t forget that even if you DO, it doesn’t have to be a big thing. It could be dinner for just the people involved in the rehearsal, or it could be everyone. It could be in a restaurant or at home. We’re thinking that ours will be a potluck at my parents’ house, and it’ll be just people involved in the ceremony (officiant, mom & dad, us, BM & MOH, siblings & grandparents).

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not doing one.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You definitely don’t have to have a large rehersal dinner, but if you do end up having a bridal party, you might consider having a small one with just immediate family + bridal party.  I think it’s a great way to get everyone together the night before the wedding and celebrate in a nice, low key way.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Agree with Miss Root.  I don’t think you HAVE to do one, but it is a nice thing to do for the people in your wedding party, even if it’s just parents and you guys.  It doesn’t have to be fancy… a casual pizza house/pub would be great and a fun way to start the weekend.  I understand you have a budget but I would hate for you to look back later and wish you had spent more time with your wedding party.  The actual wedding day goes by so fast and unfortunately you don’t get a lot of time with anyone.  But a rehearsal dinner is a nice way to catch up with your out-of-state bridesmaids (if you have them) and generally say thanks to your nearest & dearest. 

P.S. I do think you & your FI definitely need to pay.  But that’s why I’d keep it small & casual. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My wedding is pretty small, 80 invited, and i do plan on doing something for a very limited number of people.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do 🙂 But I agree with the idea Miss Root. And you do have to pay for it unfortunately.

I had the same problem too, especially since I’m having a destination wedding and didn’t want people to feel unappreciated. I think I might just cook dinner at the house we rented for our immediate family and bridal party or take them to a local restaurant.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

What if you are not having a rehearsal and don’t have a wedding party – but all of your guests are coming in from out of town and going out to dinner the night before as a group. Are we obligated to pay for everyone’s dinner?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I think if you’re having a rehearsal it’s rude NOT to have a RD.  Ours is going to be very relaxed and we’re hosting it at our home.  It certainly does NOT have to be fancy or expensive – just a nice gesture for those attending your rehearsal.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I think if you’re having a rehearsal it’s rude NOT to have a RD.  Ours is going to be very relaxed and we’re hosting it at our home.  It certainly does NOT have to be fancy or expensive – just a nice gesture for those attending your rehearsal.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, it totally doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive.  Initially I wanted to do something at one of our favourite restaurants and it would have been mostly affordable (under $1000 for everyone for food and drink), but it’s too much money in the end, so we’re just going to have take-out from another favourite place of ours and have it at home.  Easy-peasy!

I think technically the Groom’s parents are supposed to pick up the tab and they may end up helping out with costs, but we still didn’t want to burden them as they are already flying in for the wedding.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would do something even if you invite just those included in your wedding back to your house or your parents house for pizza or chinese food.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree, you can just do something nice at home with the immediate family & bridal party… just order in food or do a bbq?

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