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I don't know about Catholics, but most mainline protestant denominations don't require one! We're definintely not doing one, cause my mom thinks they're weird.
While unity candles are fairly common, I thought they didn't come from any particular religious tradition. There is some good info on Wikipedia -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unity_candle
Some churches actually forbid it.
Another interesting link (for those not so into the ritual) -
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-religion/1908449/posts
Personally, I don't see us including this in our wedding. I especially get bothered when the bride and groom blow out their own candles after lighting the larger one. What message does that send LOL
Unity candles have no religious origin so many churches don't allow them for that reason. Tons of people skip them and no one misses them.
You can use sand instead. Or, mix colored water. Or, as one poster just wrote about!, epoxy. Or you can skip this altogether, depending on where and who marries you. Some religions don't want the candle, some do, some don't care. If you are going a nonreligious route, you can definitely skip it or make up a symbol of joining on your own. Do what makes you happy! :)
Nope, unity candles are a relatively new and secular tradition.
We're doing a Blessing of the Hands instead: I have it posted here.
We were considering doing a Blessing of the Hands too Mermaid! We went with handfasting instead and a sand ceremony.
I think it depends on the church. Our church didn't allow unity candles because the ceremony doesn't have a religious meaning and because the candles are a fire hazard.
Looooooove the blessing of the hands. jsut reading it makes me tear up!
If you don't want it you don't have to have it. We're doing flowers instead.
@bridepower - You don't have to do anything regardless of how traditional or expected it might be. Make your ceremony yours and have it reflect who you are as a couple.
Nope. As another poster mentioned, they are not religious in origin. I refused to do a unity candle because on top of all the other stressors I did not want to worry about accidentally lighting myself on fire.
Definitely no! We're skipping all of the "ritual" type things. No unity candle, no unity sand, etc.!
You can do it with or without. Whichever you prefer. Just check with your church. A cute twist on it that I saw on the 'net was a Unity Cocktail instead of a candle where the bride and groom actually had a totally new drink made to represent their tastes and likes :) But you don't HAVE to do anything.
Yep, I agree with everyone here, the unity candle is not necessary! I LOVE the hand ceremony, or hand fasting ritual. I've seen the sand ceremony a bunch of times as well. It really does depend on what you and your fiance want to do/what would be special for your ceremony!
good, i'm glad to hear this b/c i want to save as much money as possible....
FOR THE PERSON WHO SAID,
Personally, I don't see us including this in our wedding. I especially get bothered when the bride and groom blow out their own candles after lighting the larger one. What message does that send LOL
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I'll ask the priest this of course, but in a church is a unity candle necessary?