- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
So my sister and I are only 15 months apart. We’ve done everything together our whole lives- I started 4 year old workbooks at my preschool because I had a melt down when they told me I couldnt go into the kindergarden room with her… But since then, we’ve always tried to make ourselves separate people. I feel like we have a twin complex without actually being twins. But, lo and behold, we are both teachers, we both look almost identical to our mother (people mix us up ALL the time), we ran with the same friends until we went to different colleges, and we happen to both be engaged… That’s the first thing that set me off. My FI and I have been together for almost 4 years. We had been talking about getting engaged for a long time, but in January he got really serious about his finances and told me it would probably be Feb (he told me because he was taking my grandmothers e-ring, I now have her solitaire as the center stone in my setting) Prior to him telling me this, my sister had been talking about maybe getting engaged with her now FI sometime possibly this summer after they move. After we started talking really seriously about it, surprise- she gets engaged 2 weeks BEFORE my FI pops the question…
Then, she tried to tell me its not a big deal, not because people will still be excited, but because ‘no one cares. its just a few congratulations’ Great. Thanks for that.
THEN, my mom tells us that my parents are going to be able to give us $5000 each for our weddings (which will be only 3 months apart, despite the fact that I had my date chosen LONG before we even got engaged….) I am super excited they will be contributing that much, our budget has been 10000, so with my parents contributing half, its much less of a financial burden, hooray! (if you havent noticed my whole wedding has been basically planned for a while haha) My sister on the other hand is throwing a fit because she hates any of my moms suggestions for venues- or anything else really- because she says they are too expensive. When I asked her what the budget was she said “what did mom say she was giving us? Thats my budget.” And that infuriates me. Not because she has a small budget, I totally get that. But that she is not planning on contributing a single dime to her own wedding, and is still complaining about costs.
And finally… my mom found out about a sale at a nice wedding boutique. Im really excited because they have maggie sottero and other designers I wanna try on. But my sister is going to be going AT THE SAME TIME. I feel like trying on wedding dresses is supposed to be part of your moment when people tell you how beautiful you look the first time you try on a white dress and all that jazz. I know its kind of petty, but I feel like she keeps taking away my moments, with her announcing her engagement first, and now sharing my time with dresses. And she doesnt even care about weddings! Until her FI started talking about getting engaged she said she didnt care if she got married or not. She hasnt looked into a single thing regarding anything wedding related, and is relying on my mom to look at venues (the only reason shes even doing that, is because my mom is nagging her to pick a place before it books up- shes looking at June 2013)
Ugh… sorry its so long, just needed to get that off my chest. Any suggestions on how to cope with dress shopping Thursday? Its going to be the 2 of us and our mom, my FMIL and possibly my sister’s FMIL as well.