(Closed) Do we have to do favors?

posted 8 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

They aren’t required, nor is it rude to not have any. Most people skip them because they don’t care about them or aren’t able to afford them, and if they do attend a wedding that has favors, the favors go completely unnoticed, even when edible, or else they get tossed out when the guests get home. Most guests prefer that you save your money and don’t do them at all.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Uh no.

Favors are just ‘extra.’

Sure they can be a nice little detail but they are absolutely not necessary.

I really don’t think anyone will miss them.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

They are not necessary. If there isn’t a particular idea that you get really excited about and want to do, then just skip them.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have the same feeling about favors as I do save the date cards. If you have the money, great. If not, skip them.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

No, you don’t have to do favors; however, I am doing them because if I didn’t, I just wouldn’t feel right, so for me, they are required.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No you do not need to do them! They are just extra and will go unnoticed anyways! Seriously the past 2 weddings I have gone to did not have any favors (I only noticed because as a soon to be bride I am looking out for them for ideas!) and no one cared!!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

skip ’em, i say. guests won’t know the difference. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We won’t be doing favors, we’re paying for a nice meal, open bar and providing transportation for people who drink too much–we can’t really afford more than that! If they really want a favor that badly they can take a flower or something from the centerpieces 😉

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Mine were annoying to do and no one cared. Frustrated a bit by that. But then I remembered, the last 4 weddings I’ve been too, no one has done them. It is not neccessary or even worth the time.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Nope! We are forgoing favours as well!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Favors aren’t a requirement. The last wedding I was at, the bride just used some colorful tulle bags and slipped a few hershey kisses in them. Before we left, I noticed TONS on the tables still. My FI took a couple extra for himself…lol…but it seemed like a lot of money was wasted. ): We will be doing favors, but only because the FMIL is crafty and wanted to take on the task herself, so it won’t be coming from our budget. I have planned a ‘candy bar’ at the reception, and was going to do that in place of favors. Any extra candy left over sure wouldn’t go to waste between the FI and our family members, so I figured that would be a good replacement. All in all, I agree with the other ladies…not worth the time or the the money, unless you have it to spare.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

FI and I wanted to skip the favors as well. There is nothing we’re really excited about doing and they cost a lot of money so we thought, lets skip ’em! Anyway, when I mentioned this to FSIL she said we should do them. She said technically, the favor is the “Thank You” on the day. I was like, WTF?? I have to give a favor to say Thank You? What about the cocktail hour, dinner, and open bar we are providing? And also the Thank You card I will personally write out and mail to you after the wedding? I personally think favors are unnecessary but now after her comments I am paranoid that other people will feel the same way she does if we don’t do them 🙁

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, I don’t think people now day care about wedding favors. Most of them are cheap store-bought trinkets that people either forget or trash. I think wedding favors are perfect for a smaller, intimate wedding where the favors are maybe handmade or more significant. To answer your question, NO you don’t have to give out favors. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

In my culture, favours are a given. Yet, I’ve always found them unnecessary and more often than not I forget to take them with me when I leave the wedding. However, my parents are insisting, and everybody going to the wedding will be mortified if we don’t have them, so we’re doing them. I’m determined not to spend too much on them though.

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