Do we HAVE to have his siblings in the party?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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1750 posts
Buzzing bee

No, you don’t have to his siblings in the bridal party. You’re not obligated to have anyone in the wedding that you don’t want there.

Yes, it may hurt your fiancee’s mother’s feelings and his sibling’s feelings, but it’s not their wedding day. You shouldn’t have people you’re not close to standing up their with you and in all of the bridal party pictures, not even if they are family members.

If you don’t want to hurt their feelings, you can give them something else to do. They could do readings, for example. That way they’re still a part of the day, the mom gets to see her children in their brother’s wedding, and you don’t have them as members of the bridal party. 

If you don’t even want to do that, it’s ok. It may hurt some feelings, but what you and your fiancee want is what matters the most. They’re all adults, so they should be able to handle this, even if it does sting a bit. 

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t understand the point of having the same person as officiant and/or MOH and/or best man, let alone all 3. the official role of MOH/BM is to sign the register as a witness – but at least where I live the officiant can’t do that. The main unofficial role of MOH/BM is to stand next to the bride and groom respectively, but he can’t do either of them (let alone both) because he’ll be officiant-ing. 

So why don’t you dispense with best man and MOH roles altogether, and just have your brother as officiant? The smaller the bridal party (i.e. none!) the easier it is to justify omitting someone.

If you have no bridal party, any guest can be the witness who signs the register.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

A bridal party is reserved for those who are most special to you & your FI. A bridal party is never an obligation 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

You aren’t obligated. FSIL is in the wedding, my brother is not.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: Ancaster Mill

Neither my sister or future SIL are in the party. We did however decide to include them by having them do the readings.

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