Post # 1
Bees, here’s a question. The Mr. and I have been talking, and we came to the conclusion that we’re both really not late night people. He has no qualms getting up at 5am (I’m not THAT crazy!) – there was even a New Years Eve where we left the party at 11:00 because we were that tired (we stayed up until midnight to officially greet the new year, and were in bed by 12:15 :P) I think you get the picture…
So, is it totally unrealistic to plan for a wedding to not go into the wee hours of the morning? Like I’d be more than happy to go until 10 or 11, but after that it would be more draining than anything. Any thoughts? As always, I love all of your guys’ opinions!!
Post # 3
You guys set the schedule so it’s really up to you. But if you’re not night people, have you considered a Sunday morning brunch wedding? LOVE those. Or a Saturday afternoon? You definitely don’t need to get married on Saturday night. Then again, if you would prefer a Saturday night, it’s really just up to you when you decide to end the party!
Post # 4
It’s okay if you leave before everything is over. Do what will make you and your husband-to-be happiest. Plus, you wouldn’t want to start the honeymoon exhausted! 🙂
Post # 5
Eh. I wouldn’t suggest leaving your guests too early honestly. I went to a friend’s wedding and when all the guests went back to the hotel, they didn’t go back with everyone and instead hung out with just their wedding party. That was beyond rude IMO. Worse that they chose to hang out with only a select group than that they didn’t hang out after the wedding, but a bunch of us commented on how rude it was that they didn’t make any attempt to spend time with the OOT guests given the time/money/etc. everyone spent to be there for them. While your situation isn’t the same, it may leave a bad taste in some peoples mouths is all I’m saying. If you do decide to turn in early, be sure to get in enough quality time with your guests the night before or during the wedding. Yes, it is important for you and your FI to do what makes you comfortable, but it is also important to make sure your guests feel like they are appreciated and not just there to add another gift to the pile.
Post # 6
You can fix everything with an afternoon wedding. They’ll be tired by 8pm along wiyh you, no matter what. You may have to spend the first night nearby… but that might work out better for flying out the next morning anyway. Our B&G will have breakfast at a Dallas hotel before a noon flight to Cancun.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
i think it would be a great idea to do a daytime wedding if it’s not too late – that’s what we’re doing and it has in part to do with the fact that we’re not really late night people either (the out of town dinner the night before is 5 – 8 pm). I also think that if your wedding is already planned to be at night, you can arrange for it to end at 10 or 11 and that is fine.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the wonderful ideas! I’ve been thinking about doing a daytime wedding. What are the logistics there? (i.e. what time would the ceremony and then reception be?)
@ VirginiaMarie, could you tell me about the Sunday Brunch weddings you’ve been to?
@ Kittyachi, I think you really have a point – I’d never want my guests to feel ‘second best’ or left out or anything. I know it’s “all about the bride and groom”, but we really want people to have a good time too 🙂
Post # 10
When we got married my husband and I opened some presents when things started getting quieter at about 10pm and then said thaks and bye (the usual) to the people we loved most and quietly crepted away in a pre-arranged taxi to our first night hotel. Nobody seemed to mind and it keeps things sweet all round. Oh, by the way you can forget trying to get a few moments together during the eraly part of the eve, we thought we managed it, but later discovered a photo of us exchanging our gifts to each other taken through the kitchen window! Bloomin relatives! Love um though x
Post # 11
I agree with Kittyachi…and I think an afternoon/brunch wedding might be best in your case.
We’re definitely partying late into the night/early morning. This will be the first time in years I’ve seen some family and friends, and I’m so excited to spend time with everyone :o)
Post # 12
I’m confused…how late are weddings supposed to go? We’re having a 4pm wedding that’s ending around 10 or 11. Am I missing something? Or are you guys talking about having an after party?
Post # 13
I went to a Sunday brunch wedding in May a few years ago that was breathtaking. We went to the ceremony at about 10:30 (i think!), it was a beautiful morning–gorgeous flowers everywhere. We then went to the reception which was at a yacht club (BEAUTIFUL!), there was a piano player/singer who kind of sounded like Michael Buble/Frank Sinatra playing all the classic love songs and the couple did a first dance and a cake cutting. And it was the biggest brunch buffet I’ve ever seen. There was a bar and some people were drinking mimosa, champagne or even beer (since it was after 12 and there was a lot of Lunch foods). There wasn’t a lot of dancing, but more standing and chatting…the pianist was essential though because it was great bacjground music and it was completely enjoyable. I would describe it as one of the more gorgeous weddings i’ve been to….but I know the couple saved a ton of money by having in Sunday AM rather than Saturday night.
Post # 14
@fourpeas: Ours is going until 11pm but then we’ll be having an after-party.