Post # 1
My BFF/MOH is getting married pretty soon so her sister and I (co MsOH) are planning her bachelorette party. Now, it’s a surprise, so we can’t consult the bride on anything. She is having a super low key wedding and is not expecting any huge parties or anything like that. I’m not sure she even expects a bachelorette party. But her sister and I love her to pieces and want to throw a good one for her so we are!
Today we booked the hotel room where we’ll be staying and had gone over everyone we could think of to invite and couldn’t think of anyone besides ourselves and of course the bride. She doesn’t have very many girl friends. So we figure this will be totally just fine.
Until a thought hit me just now. Her fiance’s brother is married. I think she’s in her 30s. Anyway, neither of us know her very well, I’ve never met her and couldn’t tell you her name, even. Bride says she’s very quiet, shy, and reserved. She tries to talk to her but the woman seems off-put by Bride’s bubbly happiness.
DO WE NEED TO INVITE HER?
This may put a kink in the plans. I’m not sure if the hotel will let us add another person, but they might. I’m not sure if this is the woman’s scene either, she may feel left out with the rest of us partying hard, which will stress out the bride because she’ll make it her mission to not scare the lady, when in reality I know she’ll be wishing she could be dancing and drinking.
Sorry for the novel, but I need advice ASAP!
Post # 3
No, I wouldn’t invite her unless she & your BFF are close, which it sounds like they’re not. I’m thinking of the equivalent person in my life (husband’s sibling’s spouse) and no, I would not (and did not) invite that person. The bach party is for good friends. I don’t think the Future Sister-In-Law will be offended.
Post # 4
What else will you be doing on the night?
If there’s only a few of you at the hotel I wouldn’t worry about asking her to stay but if you’re doing dinner/going out or something like that I would at least invite her seeing as she’ll be family soon!
If she’s quiet and reserved she may decline anyway but at least you’ll have done the right thing 🙂
Post # 5
@Miss_E_xx: We’re going out of town to get some dinner and hit up some pubs and bars. She’d need to stay in the hotel if she didn’t want to drive all the way home, which I doubt, since we’re going to be about an hour out of town.
Post # 6
I say invite her–if she is’nt comfortable with the events she can always decline…. hopefully if she feels that way she will sct on it. 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t think you need to invite her because honestly, if you don’t even know her name then she can’t be that big in the bride’s life otherwise she would have made sure you knew her name. It may seem harsh but it also sounds like you already know she may not enjoy herself. Also, if it’s only going to be the 3 of you anyways, then it might be a little awkward as well.