(Closed) Do we invite to the rabbi?

posted 4 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We asked our rabbi if he usually stays for the reception and he just said no, so that settled it. Maybe you could ask him if that’s his custom (you can phrase it better — like if would lead a bracha before the meal, or something similar). 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We did not send our rabbi an invitation and I don’t think he expected one.  (He was not a rabbi that we’d known for long, and we were paying him a fee to officiate.)  But during our last meeting with him before the wedding we invited him to stay for cocktails, which he did (for about a half hour, I think).  We did the same thing for the pianist who performed at our ceremony.  I think it’s a nice courtesy to extend if you’re having a cocktail hour. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You typically send the rabbi (and spouse, if any) an invitation.  But s/he typically says no, unless s/he knows you well in some other context.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had 2 rabbis co-officiate the ceremony. We invited them both, their spouses, and their combined 3 children….they all came! It was within our budget and I was happy to have them there! 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ajillity81:  Yes, I think that is the polite thing to do. We invited our rabbi and her spouse as well as the cantor and his spouse.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ajillity81:  It is customary to invite the priest to the reception, but he normally doesn’t come.  It seems from the other posts it’s the same for a Rabbi.  And, unless you’re tight on space at your venue, I would just go with the more generous/polite option, if you aren’t sure.  No one can be offended at being invited, but they can at not being invited.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

We do plan to invite our rabbi and his wife and child, but he is the rabbi who sponsored me through my conversion, so we are very close to him. If we have one of the cantors from our synagogue as well, we will be inviting her.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We sent an invite to our rabbi, he said he will stay for the reception, he is a guy who loves to dance and have fun though.

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