Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2014 - Enoch Turner School House
My Mom is concerned that we relly need passed hor’s d’oeuvres at our cocktail hour, right now we are not planning on them.
Our ceremony starts at four, right into cocktail hour, and starting reception and dinner by 6, all at one venue. We have a very full family style meal planned, with salad, pasta, chicken, salmon, potatoes and veggies and dessert all in courses for everyone.
My Mom’s concern is hungry people- apparently she needs a snack at that time? Or people getting drunk, as we are starting to serve alcohol with no food. We are only serving wine and beer (this has made her feel better) and I feel dinner is quite early for a wedding, and should be very filling. Often during cocktail hour I feel (and so does FI) that there is never enough food for more than a bite or two, and it’s only really a tease until you get a meal anyways, and often eating happens much later… Also with the timing of the day, shouldn’t guests have all eaten a proper lunch? Therefore not being starving at 4:30?
What are your thoughts bees???
Post # 3
@bethannefisher: If you are having alcohol you should definitely offer something to eat or people are going to get very drunk very quickly. You don’t have to go crazy.. crackers and cheese and a fruit platter would be fine, but you absolutely should offer something just for the sake of keeping people from being sloshed before you even have your grand entrance.
Post # 4
I think its nice to have snacks and such, but at tha time you really don’t need actual food type things. What about some things like cookies, and fruit pieces? I might just be weird, but I would love cookies during cocktail hour as a guest!
Post # 5
Yes, you need some sort if food, if you’re serving alcohol, but it doesn’t need to be passed or fancy!
Post # 6
Yeah, even if I had a full meal for lunch, if it was 4:30 and I was drinking wine, I’d be tipsy before the meal!
ETA: I agree with PP though, it doesn’t have to be fancy! Just a little nibble so I don’t get wasted-pants…haha. Veggies and dip, cheese and crackers, fruit display, etc.
Post # 7
@bethannefisher: If you are serving alcohol, you need food. It doesnt have to be passed hors’d, but crudite, fruit, dips, hummus, cheese and crackers, etc. I read that you should plan on 3-5 bites per person per hour before a heavy meal.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
The only way you could skip them is by limiting your guests’ alcohol intake. This is what we are doing. Our cocktail hour will be a literal hour, and we are only having enough for 2 medium/smallish drinks per person. There is going to be so much other alcohol at our wedding that it made sense to limit consumption to begin with, and it doubles as a reason we will be okay without hour d’ouvres (plus appetizers are part of our catering package, so it didn’t make sense to double up).
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
That was our timeline, and we felt that snacks were necessary to keep people happy and not super wasted. Chips and dips, veggies and fruit, cheese and meat, etc. Can you do DIY at your venue? It can be easy and cheap.
If people are hanging around drinking for an hour and a half, they’ll get grouchy and/or drunk…
Post # 9
I am not a big fan of all the things that people say we should do ….but whenever there is booze, I say there needs to be food. Helps in a lot of ways. ^_^ <br /><br />I would do just like anitipasti or something like that. Cured meats, cheese, bread, crackers fruit, picked veggies. Something like that. <br /><br />Best of luck in planning!
Post # 10
You absolutely need SOME form of food, whether it’s passed or stationary displays is up to you. But if you’re serving alcohol, you want something to slow down the drinking. Not just for the cost factor, but alcohol on an empty stomach isn’t a good idea. People assume there will be food, so most guests won’t snack before the wedding. So without food, you’ll have guests that are either cranky or well on their way to drunk before dinner.
Post # 11
bethannefisher: to echo pp, you need something or else guests will get wasted, grouchy or will leave.
A friend of mine said that the worst wedding he went to as a guest had no food during the cocktail hour so he ended up drinking 4 glasses of wine on an empty stomach, felt ill and left before dinner.
Also, don’t presume your guests have time for a proper lunch. Between traveling, helping my partner get ready, getting ready myself, driving to the venue, I’m lucky to get a power bar in. Cocktail hour nibbles are a must.
One of the worst weddings I went to had the Catholic gap, so my brunch was shot. The church and reception venue was across town so it took the entire gap to get there and get parked. Then there was no cocktail hour food and only sodas / juices. I seriously considered helping myself pt cake. I didn’t but I do remember being offended that I had traveled more than 2 time zones, drove more than 100 miles that day and couldn’t even get a drink or food. I was starving so got wasted after a glass of wine. One glass. I sobered up then left.
Post # 12
Yes, I do think you need some type of food. It doesn’t need to be super fancy or expensive. Cheese and crackers and/or veggies and dip. I went to a similar wedding last summer. The ceremony was to start at 4 pm and dinner was at 6. The thing was the ceremony ended up starting late and that pushed back dinner a bit. By the time the first table got food it had been 3 hrs since anyone had any food (longer for the other tables). I think you need to be prepared for the unexpected, murphy’s law often – events don’t run exactly as planned. Also, if people are expecting dinner at a wedding they most likely aren’t going to eat a large lunch.
I really enjoyed the wedding last summer. But not having snacks after the ceremony was the one thing I wish they had done. Many of us were starving by dinner. On this one I think your Mom is right.
Post # 13
bethannefisher: I’m only offering a cheese tray and crackers for the 45 minute cocktail time before dinner.
Post # 14
Yeah, I agree with PPs you don’t want people having alcohol and no food