Post # 1
Well ladies, I’m stuck. My mother is convinced that no wedding is complete without programs, but I’m not entirely sold. Here’s a breakdown of our reasonings:
— We have to ID by name and relationship the parents, grandmas, best man, and ushers
— People like to follow along with a ceremony, especially an “unfamiliar” one
— We can write nice quotes/memoriums/thank-yous
— “Everyone always has a program”
— We don’t have a wedding party, just a best man who is the groom’s brother
— We’re having a completely secular ceremony with no non-traditional elements (unity candle, sand ceremony, etc.) to explain
— The $$ from these could be put to better use in other signage and the wedding extras that inevitably come up
— The guests will already have sleigh bells on their chairs, why add to the STUFF?
— It’s a winter wedding, so the guests can’t even use the program as a fan
So… thoughts? I just don’t see the need, and I feel like it’s a waste of paper that people won’t even read, especially since there’s nothing to “follow along” or anything. Please help!
Post # 3
We didn’t have a program for our June wedding and no one seemed to notice or care. I felt it was more time and money then it was worth. Plus our wedding was outside and we couldn’t guarantee they wouldn’t be blowing around in the wind or something. I didn’t hear one comment from anyone about missing the programs. Our minister actually messed up on our ceremony too (he was a joke) so if we had programs for people to follow, they would’ve noticed he missed a reading and jumped around with the guideline. So it worked out for us
Post # 4
Anyone else have an opinion?
Post # 5
I like the idea of programs, but I feel they’re a bit unnecessary unles there’s something that really needs explaining. If you had money to burn, sure, but you could save a few hundred and put it towards something else, like you said. I agree it’s a nice way to acknowledge the wedding party, family, and guests of honor, but you only have a best man. In your case, with the specific circumstances of your wedding, I wouldn’t do it. I don’t even think we’re going to do it for ours, and I really like the idea. The resources (time, money, and paper) could be better applied somewhere else.
Also, I guess some people, like your mom, consider them necessary, but for a lot of other people it’s a weird, relatively new wedding creation. In mentioning the idea of programs in an offhand way, I’ve had more than one person reply to me, “Programs? For a wedding??”
Post # 6
We are having programs but only because we are doing an Episcopal ceremony in a church with some Jewish elements included (FI is Jewish), so the program helps explains what’s going on. I recently went to a traditional Jewish wedding with no programs and it was totally fine. So if you are doing a pretty “by the book” ceremony and you don’t want programs, I don’t think you need them.
Post # 7
If you want to have a program just so your mother will be happy you can find templates online and just buy some pretty cardstock and print them yourself at home. Thats what im doing and they look gorgeous! But on the ither hand no, I dont think you need a program.
Post # 8
I think programs are nice to have. If you don’t have any ceremonial elements to explain, you can still add blurbs about you and your FI and thatn the guests for coming. I bought my programs with a design on the front and a blank inside so that I can print my own, and it cost me roughly $10 for 100 of them. I like seeing programs at weddings, as it gives me something to look at while waiting for the ceremony to start. But if you chose to forgo them, I don’t think your guests would mind/notice/care. Most details like this the bride takes great pride in (if she chooses to have it) but no one else really does!
Post # 9
I think you’re right. Programs when it’s a small, normal wedding AND you don’t really want them = unnecessary death of trees.
Post # 10
We used a large chalkboard on an easel instead of programs.
We actually made it from a large cheap frame and used chalkboard spray paint. We removed the glass. It is now completely reuseable as a regular frame or chalkboard as we want. You could easily use an existing frame and paint a piece of paper or the backing of he board. (we acutally used the paper in it)
Post # 11
They aren’t necessary. I had them because I love programs but were they needed? No.
Post # 12
I’m generally anti-paper programs. I think they’re often unnecessary and a waste of money. With your wedding, I really don’t think you need them at all!
What I do like is the chalkboard program idea like the PP mentioned. I bought a chalkboard at Staples for $6 after coupons and I plan on putting it on easel that my mom has, or just propping it up against a tree!
Post # 13
We had them and I am glad I decided to do them at the 11th hour.
Post # 14
@lefeymw: Oh! This!! Yes!!
Haha sorry, overboard enthusiasm there, but you may have just solved this little problem very neatly (I’m not sure why this idea didn’t ever occur to me). It’s definitely something I can make myself, my mother is a calligrapher so she can do the chalking/writing, and we’ll acknowledge everyone *without* dealing with programs. Thank you!!
@iheartnerds: And yes to using coupons to get the stuff I’d need! I wonder if my venue has an easel or two we could use…
For both of you/anyone else: where to display this lovely board? Would putting it near the table assignment board at the reception be too little too late? Maybe it could fit in the hallway that leads to the ceremony site. Hmm.
Post # 15
I put it where people walked by to get to the ceremony site. I think that is most appropriate. People mingle before sitting so it gives them a chance to read it.
Post # 16
We could have used them (interfaith wedding, lots of honors) but no one but me really missed them.