(Closed) Do We Pay for Groomsmen Tuxes AND Gifts?!

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We rented the gm’s tuxes but we didn’t pay for everyones tux.  That’s really nice of you to offer to pay for their tuxes.  Maybe get something small in addition too.  You could look on ebay but get some personalized flasks. One of the gifts I got my gm were engraved flasks and after shipping they were about $10 each.

Oh, you could go to Mens wearhouse and they could buy their own suits.  It’s about $250 or so depending on the tux/suit.  My husband is the best man for a friends wedding and they are getting gray suits for about that much. 

I considered buying instead of renting but renting was cheaper than buying. 

Post # 4
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I personally think it’s really up to you, but maybe you can get them a little something to show your appreciation for their being part of your day? Cufflinks, a tie, alcohol… (can you tell I have no idea what guys like?)

Post # 5
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are not paying for tuxes. Mr. R is the second to last of his friends to get married, and none of them have paid for his tux rentals. (In 6+ weddings!)

Is that normal for your circle of friends though?

Post # 6
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We’re getting them a gift (their shoes and something else) and they’re buying their suits (suits, not tuxes) because they all need new ones and we found a good deal (buy one suit, get two free). So we’re all pitching in to buy two suits and getting four for free. 🙂 Just splitting the cost six ways

Anyways, if he’s really adamant ask him if you should be paying for the BMs dresses and giving them a gift too. I don’t think it’s logical really. Why would you pay for their tuxes AND get them a gift if you don’t do the same for the girls? That would just be my argument/stance. It’s cheaper for guys usually anyways when you consider the hair, makeup, shoes, undergarments for women even if the tux rental is 150 and so is the dress or whatever.

Post # 7
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

No.. Its true they dont get to keep them.. but when they were asked to be groomsman they should know that they have a tux or suit rental to take care of.. that is their only responsibility. But yes you of course pay for their gifts. But thats just my opinion.

Post # 9
2820 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If you pay for the rentals, that is your gift to the GMs. Stick to your guns!

Post # 10
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Often times renting a suit is a lot cheaper than buying a dress, so that’s something to consider as well. You could have them all buy a suit – but that’s often times *more* expensive than a dress. It’s really hard to win. Our guys are renting suits, and they are paying for them. None of them really want suits because they don’t need them, and having them spend less money on renting a suit was preferable to them buying a suit that they’d keep.

Post # 11
34 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Personally I would pay for the tux AND get a Groomsmen gift! How can you ask them to stand in your wedding and offer no gift? A tux rental is a pretty lame *gift*

Post # 12
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I personally didn’t want to but the precedent has been set in our group the groom pays for the rental AND gives a gift, so yes we’re paying.

Post # 13
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Maybe think about having the guys buy there tuxs so they can keep them? We had our guys get theres at JcPennys and they where cheaper than a rental…just a thought!

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