- 7 years ago
My DH “not really friend” is getting married this weekend, we aren’t going to the wedding since it’s destination and we have a family wedding to attend as well.
A little back story. DH lived with this friend and his FI for 2 years. The friend stiffed my DH rent constantly ( his FI never paid any rent and was a total slob) . The friend owed DH a lot of money. By the time the friend and FI moved out he owed my DH about $6,000, he only paid my DH $3000 of it and then started a hugh fight with my DH over it, my DH had plently of docs and proof to prove that he owed him that money and told him he was going to take him to petty court if he did not get the rest owed back. Well he never got the money and backed out on taking him to court because of their other mutual friends who told him it wasn’t worth ruining a friendship over and that it was just typical behavior of the friend to owe people money. More or less the mututal friends wanted to make their life easier. My DH did put it aside ( I of course was super pissed) but he moved on. About 3 months later my DH goes to move out only to find that his friend never moved half of his stuff out. They basically left all their junk that they didn’t want in the apartment, however, in order for my DH to get his security deposit back WE had to remove everything, that was the tipping point for both my DH and the friendship with them.
We were not planning on inviting the friend or FI to our wedding but DH mututal friends made a HUGE deal out of it and so against our better judgement we sent them an invite, hoping they wouldn’t come, and of course they did.
At the time of our wedding, they had gotten engaged, so they ended up giving us a gift that was from As Seen on TV, it was a holgen oven, something we would NEVER use, and I figured it was a regift, then much to my horror I opened the box which looked it had been opened and retaped about 20 times, and in the box was a card from the person that gave it to them! I just thought it was totally rude and tacky, if your going to at least regift a gift remember to take YOUR card out.
Anyways, DH and I are planning on sending a card to them but that was it, no gift or anything. Of course now I am analyzing it and wondering if we should send something, I don’t know. What would you all do? Thoughts?