Post # 1
I have a cousin who lives in California who is the only family on my Dad’s side. We expect her and her family to fly out for the wedding in Ohio, but not for the bridal shower. My mom still wants to send her an invite, even though we know she won’t come, but she is well off and I’m afraid that it will just seem like we’re asking for a present. So, should I send her an invite so that she doesn’t feel left out, or do I not send her an invite so she doesn’t think I’m being greedy? Help!
Post # 3
Send an invitation out of courtesy to include her in the day and your happiness. Let the decision to attend, send a gift, etc. be up to her. Whether she is well-off really has nothing to do with it — at the core of this, it is about including a family member in something special. You can’t be responsible for how she will take it, but you can be responsible in letting her know she is special to you in celebrating this part of your life. If it still feels weird, why not enclose a little note saying you understand distance is a factor but wanted to be sure to make her feel like she was a part of everything and not be left out?
Post # 4
I think you should send her one, maybe you can put a note in it that says something along the lines of ” I know that you probable can’t make it with it being such a long trip, but I always want you to know that you are wanted and invited to all family events. You will be missed. You loving cousin….”
It is never wrong to let someone know their company is wanted and enjoyed.
Post # 5
Invite her. Even if you think she can’t make it, it’s still nice to include her.
Post # 6
@tksjewelry: Pretty much what I was going to say, but even better.
Post # 7
Don’t put a note on the invite, that is often seen as a backhanded way to tell someone you don’t want them to come. Send the invite as it is. If she mentions it to you or your parents and is on the fence about the travel, then you be understanding about the expense and distance.