Post # 1
Well FI got super excited when we started making our guest list when we were getting ready to send out save the dates. His list practically exploded! Anywho, he has now decided that there are some people he added and were sent save the dates to, that he no longer wants to invite. Mind you, during the time he was giving me his list, I kindly reminded that he didn’t have to invite every person he ever came into contact with. Obviously he didn’t get that. The 4 couples he wants to take probably won’t come anyway and he hasn’t talked to them since we got engaged if he even talked to them at that point.
My question is, Do I still send them an invite and hope and pray they don’t come or just not send out one at all???
I have since informed him that the list is closed. No more adding, I don’t care who it is. No more.
Post # 3
Yikes. I’m sorry to say that since you did indeed send them a save the date, you now do need to send them an invitation. Even if you think they will decline. I was in the same boat with one couple but I had already mailed the std. Oh well, right?!?!
Post # 4
Oh the dreaded guest list….
I would say that they are still expecting an invitation and by sending a save the date you are basically promisng them an invite. I would send them one.
If you do not send an invite, you will burn all bridges with these people. Also, I would suspect you would feel guilty (I would).
Post # 5
unless he really doesn’t care if he’s not friends with these couples after the wedding, you should send an invite and keep your fingers crossed that they don’t come.
Post # 6
You could always say it must have gotten lost in the mail if they ask!
As for etiquette- Yes you should still send them an invite because you sent them a STD. If they were single guys I would prob say not to worry about it because they prob dont even remember but a couple deff would remember and you should send them one.
Post # 7
@mrskisstobe: NEVER and i repeat NEVER uninvite someone who you sent a save the date to (unless they stole your TV or beat up for grandma, of course).
Sorry, but you really need to send the invites. The STD means they ARE invited. If you don’t send an invite, it would be very rude.
Post # 8
This is why I haven’t sent my save-the-dates out yet! We’re going to send them out when we get our engagement pictures back and make them up, and I will be getting a FINALIZED guest list before that. I refuse to let this happen!
Post # 9
It must be a man thing where they don’t listen, because I stressed the importance of inviting people who he really wants there and not just everyone he has ever met or what not. He is driving me nuts. He has now asked me to add a few other people who doesn’t hang out with on a regular basis. They ride motorcycles together once in awhile.
Post # 10
My FI knows a billion people and is so happy about getting married that he wants to invite them all. He already has a 100 people are just his friends. He is the kind of person who will invite people he meets anywhere. So I feel your pain and I am battleling him over his friends. I think though that you would have to send them an invite and let them do the declining. I’m glad that we have not done any STD yet.
Post # 11
I think it would be quite rude if you didnt sent them an invite after sending a STD..