(Closed) Do We Still Need to Get a Gift for the Couple?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Gift.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@ohulani:  a small gift and card would be nice, it wouldnt need to be expensive as you are spending a lot on the beer.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is FI a groomsman or best man? If so, I think that you still need to get a gift.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ohulani:  Technically you never have to give a gift as a guest. I say this as this is what proper etiquette dictates not that I agree with it. I personally, and none in my circle, would dare show up without a gift. It’s atleast a 10 k party- you can bring a Dollar Tree card. However, in my mindset, if he is in the groomsparty than a small gift and card would be in order. If you aren’t in the party and bought the keg, a lovely card would be wonderful.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Bachelor parties are completely seperate from the wedding. Whenever I go to bachelorette parties, I spend around that much and still get a nice gift or cash for the wedding.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Peony007:  I wish I could “like” this just like facebook…

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Yes you still should give a gift, I agree with @Peony007:  the bachelor party is completely separate from the wedding. The bride didn’t partake in the keg, the gift should be for both of them, so the keg couldn’t count.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Small gift and card would be lovely

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yes.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with the above. A card and at least a token gift. Though because your FI did already spend so much on wedding related activities, I think it’s fine for it to be a token gift.

People are right, the bachelor party is separate from the wedding. But the number of spendy occasions associated with weddings is downright ridiculous… e-party, showers, stag/hen parties, then the wedding itself. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for my friends when they get married, but the spending associated with weddings is getting stupid ridiculous. I guess maybe Christmas has reached its maximum growth potential as consumer holiday, and weddings are next in line or something. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Definately a gift.

The stag nights are seperate to the wedding

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@ohulani:  I understand.

But the couple may never find out your FI paid for the keg so a small gift and card would be appreciated.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@ohulani:  No. The one year thing is an internet myth. The latest you should wait is 3 months after the wedding. Small gift, card with giftcard, or something like it would be called for in this case.

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