Post # 1
When I was planning my wedding I loved style me pretty and similar wedding blogs, and looked to them constantly for inspiration, but I couldn’t help but feel like here was no way my wedding would ‘measure up’! Same thing with all of these super mommy organizing houswifey blogs – I’m like could these women’s lives possibly actually look like that?! And forget about the Christian wives ones! Memorizing scripture while growing their own produce to cook ahead and freeze for the next months meals. Each child has a perfectly designed chore chart and wears clothes sewed by hand. I mean, it’s crazy intimidating!!
Am I alone on this one bees? Does ANYONE’S life actually look this? Was anyone’s wedding THAT perfect?
Post # 3
I feel the same exact way as you
Post # 4
These blogs are like facebook, people only post the best. Each of those bloggers have shitty days and probably have shitty situations that they may not always share.
Don’t ever compare yourself to only the good people have. It’s unfair.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Blogs (and the internet in general) only show you what you are “allowed” by the poster to “see”. That doesn’t necessarily match up with reality. So try not to compare your real life to the sanitized and spit shined view of someone else’s life that you see on the internet. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Post # 6
@tranquility: @lovekiss: THANK you.
@Weetzie: Allllllllllll an illusion, OP.
Post # 7
@lovekiss: of course I *know* that intellectually, but when my 4yr just pooped her pants again , the kitchen is a disaster, and my DH is glued to his phone on the couch while I’m cleaning… Sometimes I’m just like WTF why can’t my home run like ‘A well oiled machine’, ya feel me? I guess that’s just real life for ya! 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@Weetzie: Those are the disatisfactions of life, and I guarantee that they would irk you even if you never read a blog in your life. LOL Being a grwon-up plain sucks sometimes. 🙂
Post # 10
Like PP have said, what is posted is only what they want you to see. I would look at it as something to strive for, but only sometimes… like take it with a grain of salt. Maybe you won’t sew their clothes, but you might make something to freeze for the week ahead or whatever.
Also keep in mind that you don’t know what kind of help they get. They may be SAHMs who also have a nanny and/or relatives stop by to watch the kids. And some people are more creative than others. You can still be an awesome mom and wife without doing cute/creative stuff.
Post # 11
LOL I don’t feel inadequate as much as I feel, “Wow, these people have WAY too much time on their hands.”
Post # 12
Agreeing with PP’s on this one! Blogs and FB are like windows into those women’s lives, but they can open and shut the drapes whenever they like. So naturally they won’t “open the drapes” for the internet audience to view the regular not-so-great stuff. They might show you how well organized they can keep their kids toys, but not show the part where it doesn’t matter because there are toys all over the floor and the kid would rather play with the dvd player anyways. They might show you a great homemade herbal tea, but not mention that you will NEVER have the time to sit down and drink said tea, because of the 101 things you need to get done in a day. They might show you a great housekeeping schedule, but not mention they don’t have kids or work. I like to browse all these things too, but I just limit my expectations of myself to apply them to my own life and pick through what seems realistic with the time and money that I actually have!
Post # 13
I am a food blogger so I feel somewhat qualified to chime in here. Listen to previous posters. I am not posting the recipes that turned out gross or the pics of my messy kitchen after I finish cooking. I am posting staged, well lit photos of the recipes that turned out well. This does not make me a top chef or mean I never make cooking errors or have kitchen fails. It does not mean I feel like cooking every night when I get home from work or that just because my blog focuses on “lightened up” recipes that I do not drive through Wendy’s once a week. It definitely does not mean that my kicthen doesn’t look like a disastor area or that every serving of the recipe I posted looks as pretty as the one in the photo I posted.
I post the most attractive photos because I want to entice people to try the recipe. I only post the ones that turn out delicious because I want people to love every recipe they find on my blog. There’s no reason for me to show the bad side on a “how to” kind of blog.
You just have to keep it in perspective. You’re only seeing a little slice of these bloggers’ lives and just because they’re great at DIY or whatever their blog is about doesn’t mean they are perfect. I’m sure there are things you do better than they do too! They just don’t have a blog about the things they are bad at. You are doing just great as is, I promise.
Post # 14
Ok, you have to remember that they don’t HAVE a life. These women don’t work. And most of them are quite a bit wealthier than they let on. I’ve seen some “budget food” blogs and the writier has high end granite countertops with perfectly restored hardwood floors. Bitch, please. Don’t talk to me about budgets. It’s all fake, it’s all a show of their “perfect” life. It’s no different than seeing the airbrushed models in the magazines. Fine for inspiration and ideas, as long as you remember that none of it is real.
Post # 15
@MariContrary: “Ok, you have to remember that they don’t HAVE a life.”
Wow, that’s harsh and not true…
Post # 16