- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Okay Bees – this is going to be a vent and I just need to get it off my chest so for those of you who read through it thank you ahead of time for listening!
My grandmother – dad’s mom – has been sick lately (both mentally we believe and physically). The story behind her would take days to type out so long story short she has recently cut off my dad and my aunt and turned to her other two children to give her what she wants. So it’s caused a bit of a rift in our family. We invited her and my other aunt and uncle to our wedding because quite frankly I have had nothing to do with her insane decisions. She was also invited to my shower which was organized by my FMIL and other grandma. She called my grandma a week before the shower at 7 AM to say she wasn’t coming (in a not so nice way) and then hung up on my grandma. Who does that? She had my uncle put a card on my front porch while no one was home with no explanation of why she wouldn’t come. Thanks gram! Move to last week and we get an RSVP with no name just a HUGE shakily written X through the no spot and we can only assume it’s from her. The other aunt and uncle haven’t even had the decency to RSVP. I would love for my grandma especially to share this day with me. Even though I hate the way she’s treated my family members it would still mean alot to me for her to attend. Oh and we’re getting married on her and my late grandfather’s anniversary which she was at one point in time so pleased and honored by!
Now let’s move on to my sister, who is also my MOH. To put it nicely she’s unhappy with her life but has done nothing to change it. I on the other hand am completely happy – wedding aside – and I kind of get the feeling she may be a little jealous. That sounds selfish I know but it’s the only thing me and other family members can come up with to explain her behavior. She graciously drove from OH to MI for my shower two weeks ago. Upon walking in the door to my parents (where we were both staying for the weekend) she was grouchy and rude. I attributed it to the long drive with three children, but that was before the rest of the weekend unfolded. The next day instead of coming with my mom and I to a few appointments (I’m trying to include her and spend time with her as much as I can since she lives far away now) she sleeps in, says she’s not coming and proceeeds to leave her kids with my dad and disappears for SIX hours, not telling anyone where she’s going. When she got back she said she had to go get a shower gift, which were a set of towels so I was a bit confused as to how that took so long – maybe she made them herself who the F knows! She then proceeds to tell me she’s not giving a speech at the wedding because I didn’t for her (that’s another long dramatic story which involves me being in the middle of a feud with her and my folks and being 15 at the time!) “You didn’t do one for me so I’m NOT doing one for you!” Okay no problem, I get it you’re resentful even though I’ve appologized and told you a billion times I regret not doing it! Move on the the shower the next day (most of this was contained enough that I didn’t hear about it until after, thank goodness!) To start she quietly to my mom refused to sit with me and the other BM because two of them are gay. Even throws a behind closed doors (outside the room) temper tantrum about her daughter who is a JBM sitting there because they “probably aren’t a good influence for children”. Apparently homosexuality is now contageous – who knew! Keep in mind she’s never met them before this day and has no concept of who they are except the fact that they’re gay. Eventually she came and sat but said nothing to the two girls and ignored their questions and attempts to get to know her. I was so embarassed. People thought we’d been in some sort of huge falling out because she was so sour all day…no we didn’t, she’s just rude. She then refused to help with gifts. When my grandma had finally convinced her she only did it for part of the time and then wouldn’t move so my other BM could take over, leaving her to sit on the floor so she wouldn’t block guests. To top it off she left halfway through the shower. I didn’t realize upon her arrival in town that she was going to be so unpleasant all weekend. I would love to confront her about it but she is unfortunately one of those people who uses her children as collateral and would not only refuse to come but they wouldn’t be allowed either (and they’re soooo excited as am I to have them there!)
Rant over – thanks for listening!
So do weddings and family occasions just bring out the worst in some people? Anyone else had crazy family drama all come out around wedding time?