Post # 1
I am starting to figure out centerpieces and a color for my bridesmaids currently and I don’t have a “theme”. I am not attracted to things like “rustic” or “gatsby” and was just going to pick things I like and that went well together but I am still curious is it ok to not have a theme?
Post # 3
@Lbward6: No. Wedding themes are just meant to help if you don’t have a vision for what you want your wedding to be. Like a reference point to help you stay on track. If you don’t need/want one, you dont’ have to have one.
Post # 4
I was going through the same dilemma as well. I decided to not have a theme since it was not worth the headache. I did not want to be limited to having things just look “rustic” or “Gatsby.” Also, themes can easily make your budget go out of control if you are not careful.
Post # 5
Nope! The theme is “we are getting married!”
Post # 7
of course it is ok..you still need to decide whether it will be more elegant, or casual…but this mostly depends on your venue..and then you just plan around your favorite colors..there is nothing wrong with it..
I have a theme..but choosing my theme happened in the middle of the planning…when I started planning it I didnt want it
Post # 8
Nope. It’s not like a child’s birthday, which is what I automatically think of when I hear the word theme. Just pick generally what you want your wedding to look like, you don’t need to classify it into some category.
Post # 9
Definitely not necessary to have a theme. I was shocked how many people asked me, “Oh, what’s your theme? Have you decided yet?” right after I got engaged. Really, people??
Post # 10
nope and i’m tired of people asking me! Same with “colors!”
Post # 11
You don’t need a theme! We didn’t have one. Or had a dozen depending on how you look at it!
Post # 12
No. My wedding’s “theme” is “it’s a wedding. We got married!” =P
Post # 13
I was super opposed to themes, but then I found that my brain was everywhere. A theme helped me focus. And apparently, my FI feels like a theme is what makes the event? Idk. In his opinion, making a pretty/elegant event is a lot harder than putting together a themed wedding because it is so subjective. But no, a theme isn’t necessary — all that is necessary is that you and your FI love the look that you put together. Colors, however, I do think are necessary as something to unify all the things you like.
Post # 14
@Fanciful: I agree. My daughter did not want a theme at all and that sounds easier, but it really isn’t. A theme (even if it really isn’t) gives you some direction. Its kind of a standard to compare items to, if that makes sense. It quickly became a named style just for simplicity.
Post # 15
I think themes are cool, buuuuuut I didn’t have the time nor do I have the patience to do all that would have been involved! I do enjoy looking at pictures/watching wedding shows with themed weddings becuase I think they turn out really neat (most times, anyways)! So no, I don’t think they need themes.
Post # 16
@Lbward6: I sure hope not, because mine doesn’t have a theme…
I hate when people ask about my “colour pallet”, because my colour is blue. All kinds of blue, just “blue”. I suppose white is a secondary colour… but its a wedding sooo…