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It was exhausting, but it was the best night ever at the same time. The most tiring part was going around and talking to all of the different people for sure, but I still had plenty of extra energy for dancing. We had about 150 people and by the next day after talking to everyone the whole night I had totally lost my voice. I didn't have my voice back until 3 days into the honeymoon!
I know I will have a blast... but I love being the center of attention.
I think the best plan to have a good time is to plan well and then any things that have to be done on the day - delegate. No one should be coming to you with questions, delegate someone to sort everything out for you (Mom or MOH etc). Also make someone your time person who will tell you what to do when.
This way you will get to sit back and go along for the ride instead of worrying about the details.
As far as the center of attention goes there is nothing you can do about that. But you will be surrounded by people you LOVE. All of my friends who recently got married arent ones for being the center of attention and they had a blast at their weddings!
We are getting soo close!
I'm so glad you posted this! My wedding isn't until October but I've been wondering/dreading the same thing. I'm so nervous to have to go around to everyone and I've been so scared that the day of I'm just going to be pulled in a million different directions and not be able to relax and enjoy it!
It's sooo close. It feels surreal. I think it will still feel surreal the day of, and at the wedding, and then it will be over! Weird.
Haha...I lost my voice too. By the end, I sounded like croakey the frog. I'm responding as a person who honestly didn't expect to have a great time at my own wedding ... but totally did! My husband and I are not that extroverted and aren't good at being the center of attention. Also, we were seriously pressured by my family into having a bigger wedding than we'd planned. But, in the end, all of that fell away and it was just a happy, fun, festive day. Nearly everyone who attended told us it was the best wedding they'd ever attended. I think it was because it was very relaxed and we didn't take it all too seriously.
The days before ARE exhausting and stressful, but try to keep perspective. The projects you don't finish (or don't come out perfectly) won't matter one bit, and you'll be in the midst of a group of people who are supportive, loving and completely on your team. Also, many guests will know that your job is exhausting and won't make a lot of demands. You'll see...it'll be great!
We had the best time.
It was a combination of having friends in town that normally aren't, having friends in our bridal party who got to relax and have fun away from the stress of their families. We had a great photographer that made things fun. Our bridal party was great - small with three on each side, but they all got along amazingly and have all friended each other on facebook since. We really enjoyed the moments that were just us, our vows, our first dance, our head table. And honestly, while we were dancing and saying our vows, it truly was like there was no one else in the room!
@jadeblue: Thank you! I really, really hope that's what happens! I wonder how much of it depends on your mindset going in. I hope to be more relaxed and positive going into it than I am right now.
Hubs and I both had a BLAST at our wedding. I had a quick lull where I got a little tired but dinner and a drink got me right back on track. My husband if pretty shy and really doesn't like to be the center of attention so he was dreading going to all the tables to chat. So we opted to do a receiving line at the church to say hello and thank you to all of our guests there, and then not go to the tables. Our parents were both OK with this arrangement and I don't think anyone was offended that we didn't make the rounds at the reception. We spoke to every one of our guests at the church and we were at our entire cocktail hour and on the dance floor all night at the reception so people had plenty of opportunity to chat further with us if they wanted to. You should consider that as an option if you think making the rounds will make you tired and stressed.. that's no way to feel on your wedding day.
@Ngolden1: You will be! I was practically in tears from stress the night before (we cooked for, set up for, and hosted our own rehearsal dinner for 50) but on the wedding day it was like we'd spent months building a boat that was now launched and out to sea. Whatever happened, it was moving on its own momentum now and was no longer our responsibility. It was a little scary, but also a great, liberating feeling. We took a long walk together on our wedding morning and had a relatively relaxed day.
Try to build in time to relax and reconnect with your FI before wedding. I know I barely saw my guy for 3 days before because we were busy running separate errands. It's really about the 2 of you and the commitment you're making. Everything else will fall into place. Can't wait to read your posts about what a fantastic wedding you have!
we had an absolute BLAST!!! one thing, though, was we took a GAZILLION pics so we did keep moving away from the reception to take some - and even though i LOVE pics (scrapbooker) and LOVE the pics we got - i wish we wouldn't have been away as much as we had...lol
but we danced with everyone and it was fun-freakin-tastic!
only regret is that we DIDN'T get around to EVERYONE...and I had a few people that left really close into the reception - but they were for reasons beyond my control...
but yup - our wedding was SO much fun!
@Moose1209: We did that too! (Had a receiving line and stayed with our guests through the whole cocktail hour instead of going to have photos taken.) After that, we scrapped the table visits (which always feel a little forced to me) and just made a point of connecting with our guests. Not sure how this would work at a large wedding, but for ours (71 guests) it was fine. I definitely recommend it if you feel overwhelmed by table visits (especially if you have a get-together the night before, your guests will feel they get enough of your time and attention).
I HATED wedding planning. Towards the end, I was grinding my teeth in my sleep and literally pulling my hair out. But we had a blast at the wedding, reception and pig roast and you will too!
Best and Most Fun Day of my Life! Hands down!
I'm not huge into attention and get nervous when all eyes are on me. But like others have said, having all these people in one room who would normally never come together simply out of support and love for you and your husband is just the most amazing feeling ever. It is a little intimidating, but if you how just make an effort to start the day with the right attitude, it will be contagious. And the love is so overwhelming--i hope you enjoy it all!
My wedding was mildly disastrous thanks to uncooperative weather and it was STILL the best night of my life...I have never danced so much, sang so much, laughed so much and been surrounded by love the way I was that night...I think you'll have a blast!
We had a great time! up until the night of the wedding we were really stressed out with finishing all the planning and just sleep deprived. but once the day begins you totally don't feel it and its just your day and everyone is there wishing you the best. its the greatest feeling. anyways, so once you get there it'll all be worth it, so stick it out and make sure you enjoy every moment of the day as it does fly by!
It was SO tiring. But I was having the best time ever. We chatted, we laughed and we got a chance to speak to each of our guests at least once. BUT, I can see how it can get really overwhelming. I'm generally fairly relaxed and on the week before the actual day I just said "Whatever doesn't happen just won't happen" and it helped me to not stress out. But I know that's not for everyone.
it is so important that you have fun!!! If something is stressing you out to the point where you can't enjoy the day, then drop the project or do whatever it takes to make sure you are having fun on your day. Seriously, it is a celebration of a union above all else, so you should be celebrating!!! Best of luck!
I'm so glad you posted this because I was a little worried too! Ive just heard from some people that the people that have the least fun at the wedding are the bride and groom! That scared me!!! I so hope that isnt true! Im already saying to myself "whatever happens, happens and what will be will be!" I hope this mantra helps me out!! Still trying to figure out if we will do table rounds or not. We will have about 85-90 people at our rehearsal dinner the night before so Im hoping that we can talk to many (if not all) of them then and then just have a few people to see and hang out with those want to! We were thinking of just doing table pictures so that at least people can say they saw us but we dont have to stay and chat. We will see!
It was extremely exhausting, but not nearly as stressful as I thought it would be. People treated me like the bride and made things easy on me, solved problems without involving me, got me food/drinks, etc. I am happy to say I had an awesome time at my own wedding. My voice was also gone the day after and I was absolutley exhausted, like I thought I might have to go to the hospital exhausted. Therefore, my biggest regret was staying around an extra day to be with family, BIG MISTAKE!!! Go on your honeymoon right away so you don't have to keep entertaining!!
@littlemissmoo: I have the same motto.. Im geting married this saturday and that motto alone has kept me sane :)
Our wedding was wonderful, I really wouldn't change a thing, and DH and I both had a blast; however it was NOT the best night of my life or the most fun I've ever had. I personally have done some crazy things, traveled to some amazing places and had some truly incredible experiences. I hate weddings ordinarily and was probably only able to enjoy ours because it was ours.
I've never bought into the "best day of my life" thing (I never wanted a wedding in the first place!) and instead view it as a wonderful, memorable and exciting day, another milestone in my life.
I'll say yes and no. I really wanted to make a point of getting around and visiting with our guests. I LOVE to dance at weddings so I missed a lot of the dancing but once we finally got thru most of the guests, I hit the dance floor and had a blast!
It was a LONG day but the best day ever :) (and not just because I'm supposed to say/think it was)
I was so happy that I talked to everyone at the wedding (102ppl) and had a blast! I only had two drinks the whole day (including champagne toast) and that was the best decision! I remembered every single second and loved every second. Nothing blurry. I also was able to make sure I saw everyone and thanked them for coming.
Enjoy yourself and just let go. A few things may not be perfect...and a few things about my day I wish would have been a tiny bit different...but overall it was amazing!
We had so much fun, but we also felt pulled in a zillion directions. We decided to go table to table and very briefly great our guests. Everyone really appreciated it, but I felt like I was in a race. Once that was over, we were dancing, then we cut the cake, then we danced some more and took some more pictures and it seemed like the whole wedding and reception was over in a blink of an eye. Actually from Thursday night (get together for everyone in town) through Friday (bridal lunch, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner) through Saturday (getting ready, ceremony, reception) went by in a blink of an eye. It was so surreal.
But the wedding day wasn't stressful at all. We had a DOC (which kept me from worrying about anything). I just focused on getting married and not worrying about anything else.
I was overwhelmed, but I still had a great time. There were moments where I was really nervous - mostly before we started taking pictures before the ceremony - and there were also moments when I was tense, like when DH was taking too long eating and I was ready to start greeting guests. But while I was not a 100% blissful bride, I was still so happy and have so many happy memories. Don't give yourself too hard of a time about always being in the moment and enjoying every little bit. You probably will be stressed or nervous, and that's okay. Just go with the flow and enjoy the joyful moments as they come!
My wedding was without a doubt the best day of my life. It was incredible to have all my friends and family together in one place and to have the "perfect" party! We approached our wedding wanting it to be beautifull and classy of course but we wanted our guests to walk away saying "wow that was fun" and we really achieved that.
It took 18 months of planning and a lot of stress to work it all out, but it was amazing.
It wasn't much fun leading up to the ceremony, but once that happened we were free of the schedule. We attended our cocktail hour and ate all of our dinner and I danced the entire night.
I also only had 50 guests, so it was much easier to say hi to everyone.
im not a big attention type person but in a way it was sort of nice that everyone was giving me some honest attention. My husband and i are very quiet people so the hole wedding thing days before was so fustrating and hectic. I cried a few times. the best moment of the entire wedding id say is when my uncle was walking me down the isle and at the end of the isle my husband stood with such a glow. He wasnt shaking and I dont think i was either. the best moment for sure.
I'm sure plenty of people have said this but I'll echo with - on the day let everything fall into place! I know its crazy to think but it happened for me! A day or 2 before I started to just get into happy, mellow its my wedding weekend mood! Since you've planned so hard and done everything you can just enjoy the day! It'll go by so fast (i know everyone says that, but its true) make sure you make the best of it!
It's so nice to hear everyone's experiences. We are having 58 people at the rehearsal dinner the night before, so that will definately help ease me into things. Did anyone not do a receiving line, not go to cocktail hour and not go around to tables? We aren't doing a receiving line and probably won't make it to cocktail hour, but I would really just like to talk to people naturally as I see them throughout the night and skip the table stops.
It's so nice to hear everyone's experiences. We are having 58 people at the rehearsal dinner the night before, so that will definately help ease me into things. Did anyone not do a receiving line, not go to cocktail hour and not go around to tables? We aren't doing a receiving line and probably won't make it to cocktail hour, but I would really just like to talk to people naturally as I see them throughout the night and skip the table stops.
It's so nice to hear everyone's experiences. We are having 58 people at the rehearsal dinner the night before, so that will definately help ease me into things. Did anyone not do a receiving line, not go to cocktail hour and not go around to tables? We aren't doing a receiving line and probably won't make it to cocktail hour, but I would really just like to talk to people naturally as I see them throughout the night and skip the table stops.
It's so nice to hear everyone's experiences. We are having 58 people at the rehearsal dinner the night before, so that will definately help ease me into things. Did anyone not do a receiving line, not go to cocktail hour and not go around to tables? We aren't doing a receiving line and probably won't make it to cocktail hour, but I would really just like to talk to people naturally as I see them throughout the night and skip the table stops.
I guess, I'll be the one and only bride who will say...not really. I mean, was it a great day b/c I married my husband? Absolutely, but it was extremely stressful because of my mom, and I couldn't relax b/c I felt like she was watching my every move to make sure I was being the proper hostess. To be honest, I didn't have a ton of fun at my wedding. I know my husband did, but me...not so much. At the end of the day, I was glad that it was over and I could start my honeymoon.
Honestly, I am glad it's over. It was a fun day, but I mostly remember being nervous before the ceremony and then taking a ton of pictures during the reception. We started to make our way around the tables, but ran out of time. We kind of just did whatever we were told to do (come take pictures, line up here, cut the cake). The day was a little bit of a blur, but it will be really nice to have our pictures back. So all in all, it was fun, not too too stressful the day of, but I am very happy that my husband and I are settling into our lives together. :)
One of the most fun nights of my life. It's such a high, there's no words to describe the feeling. My problem was I was still so wired afterwards, I lay awake in bed till 6 am while my new husband slept peacefully beside me.
It definitely was exhausting. But its one of the greatest ways to be exhausted. There's a lot of chaos at first, it dies down some for the rest of the night but it is still a tiny bit chaotic. In a good way though. You'll have a ball, if you choose to. Its definitely a choice. I was being pulled in a thousand directions, whether by friends, family or vendors. But I soaked it all up! It was great. Being the center of attention isn't normal, but it can be so fun! Just try to relax, let things happen and soak.it.up.
I had SO much fun at my wedding and the entire wedding day! It really was (one of) the best days of my life! It was partially because we had 3 wedding events - rehearsal dinner where all guests were invited and we had about 95 of our 120 wedding guests attend, our wedding itself and the day after brunch where we had probably 50-75 people attend. We were able to see and conversate with every single guest at least once throughout the entire weekend, which made it easier for the wedding night because we spent time doing what we wanted to do! I danced A LOT. Besides the time we went around to tables (and only got to 4 of them out of 13) I didnt really have many conversations with people. Here and there, yes, but nothing too long. I spent most of my time with my husband and those I am closest to! I also ate ALL of my food and drank a little bit (the perfect amount). I honestly couldnt have imagined a better night. I hope the best for your wedding as well!!!!!!!
The main comments we heard from guests was how euphoric we were, both the day of the wedding and the day of our at-home reception. I think that before the wedding, people tend to get stressed out. However, on the day, what's done is done, and is pretty much out of your control, so you get to enjoy the fact that you are finally getting married to the one you love.
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My wedding is a week from Sunday and I just feel so stressed out. Not only is the stress from a million things we have to do, but it's also the stress of the actual day and how overwhelming its going to be. The ceremony, pictures, dances, going around to every table and talking to 125 people, all the attention on me...it sounds exhausting. I hate that I'm feeling like it's something I HAVE to do and just want to get through it. Does anyone else feel this way? Did you or do you think you will have fun?