(Closed) Do you actually have fun at your own wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It was exhausting, but it was the best night ever at the same time. The most tiring part was going around and talking to all of the different people for sure, but I still had plenty of extra energy for dancing. We had about 150 people and by the next day after talking to everyone the whole night I had totally lost my voice. I didn’t have my voice back until 3 days into the honeymoon!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know I will have a blast… but I love being the center of attention.

I think the best plan to have a good time is to plan well and then any things that have to be done on the day – delegate. No one should be coming to you with questions, delegate someone to sort everything out for you (Mom or MOH etc). Also make someone your time person who will tell you what to do when.

This way you will get to sit back and go along for the ride instead of worrying about the details.

As far as the center of attention goes there is nothing you can do about that. But you will be surrounded by people you LOVE. All of my friends who recently got married arent ones for being the center of attention and they had a blast at their weddings!

We are getting soo close!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m so glad you posted this! My wedding isn’t until October but I’ve been wondering/dreading the same thing. I’m so nervous to have to go around to everyone and I’ve been so scared that the day of I’m just going to be pulled in a million different directions and not be able to relax and enjoy it!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Haha…I lost my voice too. By the end, I sounded like croakey the frog. I’m responding as a person who honestly didn’t expect to have a great time at my own wedding … but totally did! My husband and I are not that extroverted and aren’t good at being the center of attention. Also, we were seriously pressured by my family into having a bigger wedding than we’d planned. But, in the end, all of that fell away and it was just a happy, fun, festive day. Nearly everyone who attended told us it was the best wedding they’d ever attended. I think it was because it was very relaxed and we didn’t take it all too seriously.

The days before ARE exhausting and stressful, but try to keep perspective. The projects you don’t finish (or don’t come out perfectly) won’t matter one bit, and you’ll be in the midst of a group of people who are supportive, loving and completely on your team. Also, many guests will know that your job is exhausting and won’t make a lot of demands. You’ll see…it’ll be great!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had the best time.

It was a combination of having friends in town that normally aren’t, having friends in our bridal party who got to relax and have fun away from the stress of their families. We had a great photographer that made things fun.  Our bridal party was great – small with three on each side, but they all got along amazingly and have all friended each other on facebook since.  We really enjoyed the moments that were just us, our vows, our first dance, our head table.  And honestly, while we were dancing and saying our vows, it truly was like there was no one else in the room!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Hubs and I both had a BLAST at our wedding.  I had a quick lull where I got a little tired but dinner and a drink got me right back on track.  My husband if pretty shy and really doesn’t like to be the center of attention so he was dreading going to all the tables to chat.  So we opted to do a receiving line at the church to say hello and thank you to all of our guests there, and then not go to the tables.  Our parents were both OK with this arrangement and I don’t think anyone was offended that we didn’t make the rounds at the reception.  We spoke to every one of our guests at the church and we were at our entire cocktail hour and on the dance floor all night at the reception so people had plenty of opportunity to chat further with us if they wanted to.  You should consider that as an option if you think making the rounds will make you tired and stressed.. that’s no way to feel on your wedding day.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Ngolden1:  You will be! I was practically in tears from stress the night before (we cooked for, set up for, and hosted our own rehearsal dinner for 50) but on the wedding day it was like we’d spent months building a boat that was now launched and out to sea. Whatever happened, it was moving on its own momentum now and was no longer our responsibility. It was a little scary, but also a great, liberating feeling. We took a long walk together on our wedding morning and had a relatively relaxed day.

Try to build in time to relax and reconnect with your FI before wedding. I know I barely saw my guy for 3 days before because we were busy running separate errands. It’s really about the 2 of you and the commitment you’re making. Everything else will fall into place. Can’t wait to read your posts about what a fantastic wedding you have!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

we had an absolute BLAST!!! one thing, though, was we took a GAZILLION pics so we did keep moving away from the reception to take some – and even though i LOVE pics (scrapbooker) and LOVE the pics we got – i wish we wouldn’t have been away as much as we had…lol

but we danced with everyone and it was fun-freakin-tastic!

only regret is that we DIDN’T get around to EVERYONE…and I had a few people that left really close into the reception – but they were for reasons beyond my control…

but yup – our wedding was SO much fun!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Moose1209: We did that too! (Had a receiving line and stayed with our guests through the whole cocktail hour instead of going to have photos taken.) After that, we scrapped the table visits (which always feel a little forced to me) and just made a point of connecting with our guests. Not sure how this would work at a large wedding, but for ours (71 guests) it was fine. I definitely recommend it if you feel overwhelmed by table visits (especially if you have a get-together the night before, your guests will feel they get enough of your time and attention).

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I HATED wedding planning. Towards the end, I was grinding my teeth in my sleep and literally pulling my hair out. But we had a blast at the wedding, reception and pig roast and you will too!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Best and Most Fun Day of my Life!  Hands down!

I’m not huge into attention and get nervous when all eyes are on me.  But like others have said, having all these people in one room who would normally never come together simply out of support and love for you and your husband is just the most amazing feeling ever.  It is a little intimidating, but if you how just make an effort to start the day with the right attitude, it will be contagious.  And the love is so overwhelming–i hope you enjoy it all!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

My wedding was mildly disastrous thanks to uncooperative weather and it was STILL the best night of my life…I have never danced so much, sang so much, laughed so much and been surrounded by love the way I was that night…I think you’ll have a blast! 

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