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I think that's really odd. Aren't showers usually for housewares? I've never seen anything else. Maybe she means bachelorette party, but I've never heard of anyone registering gifts for those.
The registry is for gifts that both of you will use. They are given at the shower. Gifts just for you would be reserved for a lingerie shower or bachelorette party and are not part of the registry. It really sounds like this woman has no idea what she's talking about.
Your consultant is correct that people will use the registry to find things to give you at your shower. I have not, however, heard of using that as a reason to register for "just for me" kind of gifts. I think she might have been trying to get you to register for more stuff. You'll get some things like linens, towels, kitchen gadgets etc at your shower, which is great! Maybe then you can even add more things to your wedding gift registry that you had held back on before.
I was told by a macy's sales cons. too btw, to add extra gifts for bridal showers, but she didn't mention things that were that personal. She suggested frames, crystal, toasting glasses, decorative pieces that kind of stuff. I did add a crystal ring holder, I figured it is just for me, but it would be taking care of the ring he gave me, so I added it.
My consultant never mentioned adding personal stuff. I did have things on there that were small like dish towels, kitchen gadgets, wine botle stoppers, etc. so if people wanted to get something small for the shower they would know what I need.
No, that's not right, your registry is for items to help you build a home as a couple. I think the consultants are probably reviewed on the total $ amount on registries that they help a couple to set up.
I agree w/ grace8367 - that sounds like a way to get you to add more stuff to your registry.
You should however, add lots of stuff if you are having a particular theme shower. For example, one of my showers was a kitchen shower, so I made sure to have lots of choices for people in terms of kitchen stuff.
What you want to add to your registry is completely up to you and want you want to receive. People will most definitely purchase from your registry for the shower, but usually, it's stuff for your home, unless it's a theme shower like lingerie, or a "shower" shower where everyone buy bath stuff or something.
Usually couples will opt to register for only things they can use together. It seems like a waste to me to register for bath salts when they could have gotten you a nice kitchen item you would actually use everyday.
If anyone wants to go out on a limb and get you personal "you" stuff, they can do it on their own. But in my experience, that rarely happens.
Let me tell you something about Macys and their registry department people. I've had a registry for a few months and I like their selection for some items... but they continuously send you letters and reminders that you don't have enough registered, or you should branch out to other departments or "heeey, here's another copy of that impersonal cookie-cutter registry checklist that EVERY bride must utilize or she might as well just not get married at all"
And then they say "well you have X amount of invited guests, so figure on X amount of registered items for each of them! You better register for more!" Almost as if you wouldn't register elsewhere...
It's all about the bigger sell for them. I don't know how it works exactly, but I wouldn't be shocked if someone is getting commission on it.
Don't listen to them.
Let me say that again. Don't listen to them. Don't let anyone push you around.
Register for as much or as little as you like. Register at different stores. Don't let them pressure you into numbers of gifts or types. The only real logic that gets tossed around WB and other circles of the same is "register for a variety of price points" -- meaning, have something for every budget.
Thanks girls, that's what I figured!! I just thought it was so bizarre. I'd totally rather get a nice pot or something than a set of bath gels! Of course I wanted to check though since I've never done this before... Sometimes wedding planning makes me scratch my head :D Thanks for all the input!!
Honestly, it just sounds like your consultant is just trying to add more to your registry. I noticed when we registered at Macy's that they were extremely pushy and overzealous. I had to tell her I felt more comfortable with just my fiance' and I, and that I would come find her if I needed anything else.
I wouldn't recommend putting that on there - a registry should pretty much consist of items for your new home and new life together.
I've never heard that before. But it finally explains why my cousin's FI (now ex-wife) a few years back had lingerie on their Target wedding registry! I thought it was pretty weird. I bought her a fondue set. ;)
We haven't done our registry yet, but I have often seen people put some "just for them" items on the registry. I honestly hope to NOT get a bunch of kitchen stuff at my shower and thankfully at many of the showers I've been to brides have gotten some cool stuff!
I, however, wouldn't put "personal" things on the registry. If you're having a lingerie shower, you can often register at a lingerie shop.
YOu don't need to register every thing at Macy's. But, you should feel free to ask for things like tools, tool box, lawn mowers, snow blowers, etc. You may think about Sears if you are in this category. Think of things your honey can use, too. But, only register for what you can use and what you really want. If you don't want crystal, don't register for it. Best of luck.
I agree with the other posters. At the end of the day, you should put what you want on your registry, regardless of what the consultant tells you. We found our consultant at Pottery Barn to be very helpful, while the one at BB&B was very pushy - we just politely asked her to let us peruse through the store ourselves.
A family friend is throwing me a shower the week before the wedding. She asked me if I preferred a "personal" shower or a "household" shower. The former would be for things just for you (like lingerie, jewelry, etc) while the latter is the traditional household items the couple needs. Since its mostly going to be my mom's friends and family that come, I opted for a household shower, and just made sure I included some low-cost items (like spatulas, napkins, kitchen gadgets) so that the folks who come have plenty of options. If I were having a personal shower, I probably wouldn't put anything on a registry - in that case, it'd probably be close friends who would pick out nice gifts for me that they know I'd like.
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Hi Bees,
I registed with Fi at Macy's tonight. The bridal consultant told me I need to add things like Bath Gift Sets, jewelry, etc for our registry for ME so people can buy things for the shower on there. I've never heard of that!! I didn't add anything but can if other people think it's necessary, but I'm confused! What say you?