(Closed) Do you add “shower” presents to the registry?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think that’s really odd.  Aren’t showers usually for housewares?  I’ve never seen anything else.  Maybe she means bachelorette party, but I’ve never heard of anyone registering gifts for those. 

Post # 4
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The registry is for gifts that both of you will use. They are given at the shower. Gifts just for you would be reserved for a lingerie shower or bachelorette party and are not part of the registry. It really sounds like this woman has no idea what she’s talking about.

Post # 5
1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Your consultant is correct that people will use the registry to find things to give you at your shower. I have not, however, heard of using that as a reason to register for “just for me” kind of gifts. I think she might have been trying to get you to register for more stuff. You’ll get some things like linens, towels, kitchen gadgets etc at your shower, which is great! Maybe then you can even add more things to your wedding gift registry that you had held back on before.

Post # 6
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I was told by a macy’s sales cons. too btw, to add extra gifts for bridal showers, but she didn’t mention things that were that personal.  She suggested frames, crystal, toasting glasses, decorative pieces that kind of stuff.  I did add a crystal ring holder, I figured it is just for me, but it would be taking care of the ring he gave me, so I added it. 

Post # 7
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My consultant never mentioned adding personal stuff. I did have things on there that were small like dish towels, kitchen gadgets, wine botle stoppers, etc. so if people wanted to get something small for the shower they would know what I need.

Post # 8
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

No, that’s not right, your registry is for items to help you build a home as a couple.  I think the consultants are probably reviewed on the total $ amount on registries that they help a couple to set up. 

Post # 9
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I agree w/ grace8367 – that sounds like a way to get you to add more stuff to your registry.

You should however, add lots of stuff if you are having a particular theme shower. For example, one of my showers was a kitchen shower, so I made sure to have lots of choices for people in terms of kitchen stuff.

Post # 10
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

What you want to add to your registry is completely up to you and want you want to receive. People will most definitely purchase from your registry for the shower, but usually, it’s stuff for your home, unless it’s a theme shower like lingerie, or a “shower” shower where everyone buy bath stuff or something.

Usually couples will opt to register for only things they can use together. It seems like a waste to me to register for bath salts when they could have gotten you a nice kitchen item you would actually use everyday.

If anyone wants to go out on a limb and get you personal “you” stuff, they can do it on their own. But in my experience, that rarely happens.

Post # 11
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Let me tell you something about Macys and their registry department people. I’ve had a registry for a few months and I like their selection for some items… but they continuously send you letters and reminders that you don’t have enough registered, or you should branch out to other departments or “heeey, here’s another copy of that impersonal cookie-cutter registry checklist that EVERY bride must utilize or she might as well just not get married at all” 

And then they say “well you have X amount of invited guests, so figure on X amount of registered items for each of them! You better register for more!”  Almost as if you wouldn’t register elsewhere… 

It’s all about the bigger sell for them. I don’t know how it works exactly, but I wouldn’t be shocked if someone is getting commission on it.

Don’t listen to them.

Let me say that again. Don’t listen to them. Don’t let anyone push you around.

Register for as much or as little as you like.  Register at different stores. Don’t let them pressure you into numbers of gifts or types. The only real logic that gets tossed around WB and other circles of the same is “register for a variety of price points”  — meaning, have something for every budget.

Post # 13
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Honestly, it just sounds like your consultant is just trying to add more to your registry. I noticed when we registered at Macy’s that they were extremely pushy and overzealous. I had to tell her I felt more comfortable with just my fiance’ and I, and that I would come find her if I needed anything else.

I wouldn’t recommend putting that on there – a registry should pretty much consist of items for your new home and new life together.

Post # 14
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I’ve never heard that before. But it finally explains why my cousin’s Fiance (now ex-wife) a few years back had lingerie on their Target wedding registry! I thought it was pretty weird. I bought her a fondue set. 😉

Post # 15
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We haven’t done our registry yet, but I have often seen people put some “just for them” items on the registry. I honestly hope to NOT get a bunch of kitchen stuff at my shower and thankfully at many of the showers I’ve been to brides have gotten some cool stuff!

I, however, wouldn’t put “personal” things on the registry. If you’re having a lingerie shower, you can often register at a lingerie shop.

Post # 16
374 posts
Helper bee

YOu don’t need to register every thing at Macy’s.  But, you should feel free to ask for things like tools, tool box, lawn mowers, snow blowers, etc.  You may think about Sears if you are in this category.  Think of things your honey can use, too.  But, only register for what you can use and what you really want.  If you don’t want crystal, don’t register for it.  Best of luck.

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