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Help me out girls- I registered for my bridal shower but now want to pull it off because honestly, what we really need is money. we've lived on our own long enough to have the basic living necessities and are now trying to save for a house... We thought we would just register for something like HONEYMOON.COM which is a site that people can pay for things on your honeymoon. That would help out greatly.

My question is, how do I incorporate that into my invite without being tacky? Do I add a small card inside the invite, or leave it alone, wait for people to ask and explain what we really need is help with our honeymoon or saving for a house?

Im worried if I dont include any registry it will make people get us things we may not need. What should I do? What is the etiquette for this? Help!

ok, how you guys have time for a wedding WEBSITE, along with work and wedding planning is beyond me! But, I gotta go with the flow right ?

Where do I set up this free site? What is the best one to use?  I like the idea of it because then I dont have to include a map in the invite either...

I have the same concern when I mailed out my invites.  I didn't include any registry info with the invite, b/c I want people just to give money.  I do have a website which printed on the invite, but really not many people goes to website.  MOH is throwing us a wedding shower, so she told everyone where we registered for gifts.  That makes it clear that we want gifts for the shower, but if people going to bring gifts to the wedding you can return it for cash from bed bath beyond.  Hope this help

Not to beat a dead horse here, but you should NEVER put your registry information on your wedding invites. Some countries do it, but in the US it is HIGHLY frowned upon. Recieving a gift from a guest is not a requirement, it is a courtesy, so you should NEVER EVER even MENTION gifts on something as formal as the invitation. There ARE people who do it, but the majority of people find it absolutely tacky and there is a very good chance you'll offend many guests.

As everyone else said, the best thing to do (besides spreading the information by word of mouth) is to include your website address on your invitations. (You can find plenty of free, user-friendly wedding website builders, such as theknot.com and momentville.com.) Then, on your wedding website, create a page in the menu titled "Registry Information" or something to that extent. On that page, list your honeymoon.com website in lieu of the typical department store links, or if you're feeling bold just explain your situation in a tactful manner.

If they go to your website and see that you aren't registered for toasters, blenders, and crap like that, they most likely won't get you one. Once they see the link to the honeymoon donation website, they will probably get the hint.

When I recieve wedding invitations, I always assume that the registry information will be on the couple's website, so I know to check there. Most people are practical - they don't want to waste their money buying you something they know you won't use. I would much rather someone tell me flat out that they have all the appliances they need, but that donations to their honeymoon or house fund are always appreciated. It's not wrong to tell people that, especially if they ask. You just need to know how to tell them and doing so on the wedding invitation is NOT the way.

However, it is absolutely appropriate to include registry information on your BRIDAL SHOWER invitations, since that is the purpose of a bridal shower afterall - to shower the bride with gifts.

Hope this helps, and good luck! :)

Like everyone else said, wedding websites are great for registry info.  And as for people not going to the websites, I had everyone RSVP on my website so people HAD to go there.